Thread: His Sister is inlove with him...

This is the funniest post I have read in a long time!!! LOL!!! Sorry.. Have you ever seen the FRIENDS episode when Rachael dates a guy extremely close to his sister? It is funny! Now, on a serious note - talk to your boyfriend and tell him that it seems a little too cozy. If that does not work then talk to his sister. Good luck...

Yeah, I've hear that comment a little too much (the Friends episode one). Thanks for your ideas Dragonfly.

hi retrospec,
wow almost sounds like his sister is his mother or at least she has taken on a motherly role in his life. i know you love him but it sounds like your going to be in competition with his sister. i don't know if i personally could not deal with that. you shouldn't have to be second hat to your boyfriend. i think if you do approach this sister about this you might be opening a huge can of worms. if your bf says he has this "close bond" with his sister i kind of get the feeling he will most likely take her side on this whole situation. well good luck.....

Well, when the post was titled "His sister is in love with him", the first thing I thought about was Angelina Jolie and her brother.

I read a magazine that said Brad Pitt was tired of how "close" Angelina and her brother are; how she takes his side all the time; how the brother gives her all this advice about her and Brad... and she listens...

Anyhoo, if you feel that it's too uncomfortable for you, leave the situation. I guarantee you this: if you confront his sister, he will be on her side. It'll be 2 against one, and you'll be on the outside looking in.
He said she practically raised him. That's his "sister/mother". She comes first.

And what would happen if you marry him and have his children. Whose children will they be? Here she will surely stick her nose into something that is not her business. Here you would lose too.

Either move far away from her or let him go. She not only is in love with him but he has his own problem with her. She just can't let go. This is something like an over protective Mother who falls in love with her own good looking son, she is mixed up.....You are in a no win situation....She lives in her own fantasy world and you are her competition for taking her "boyfriend". Even though this is not sexual, it has it's own questionable
characteristics........

Looks like the verdict here is that I should move on to another man because this guy's sister is nuts. And you're right about him taking her side too. I will never win against his family even if I become his own chosen family. That is what hurts the most.

He is perfect in every way. He has helped make me the successful person that I am today. I would want to share that with him.

We are both still young, I am sure I could find someone else... I just love him and the direction we are headed in. I do not think that we would ever be able to move away from his sister and I do not think I could handle her around in my life. She is a doctor and so because I am not a "doctor" it's her word over mine.

I really love him and don't want to let him go, but I know that I could never be happy with his sister in our lives.

Originally Posted by retrospec

Looks like the verdict here is that I should move on to another man because this guy's sister is nuts. And you're right about him taking her side too. I will never win against his family even if I become his own chosen family. That is what hurts the most.

He is perfect in every way. He has helped make me the successful person that I am today. I would want to share that with him.

We are both still young, I am sure I could find someone else... I just love him and the direction we are headed in. I do not think that we would ever be able to move away from his sister and I do not think I could handle her around in my life. She is a doctor and so because I am not a "doctor" it's her word over mine.

I really love him and don't want to let him go, but I know that I could never be happy with his sister in our lives.

My heart aches for you for I know the pain that you must be going through. The fact that she is a doctor makes everything worse. To many people a doctor can be near a God and it seems that she just may have this power over your man. She sees you as a threat. You are her enemy. You have the one thing that you can give him that she can't. Sex. This is your power and she is clinging to her only hope and holding him close to try and retain her control. She does not care if he is miserable, she just wants to be happy.

What about her own boyfriend? Doesn't she have a life? Her behavior with you is similar to a mother-in-law holding on to her son. She will meddle in his life until the new wife puts her foot down. You mentioned that you are both young. I would suggest if you love him and you want to make this work to find someone of power who you can trust and know and explain this to them and see if your man can be sat down to understand this power play that she has over him. She is using all the work she has done for him to control him. Wear twin sweaters, mend his clothes, not let the baby go.

She does definately have a problem but it should not be your problem. If he was able to see where she is wrong then you could threaten to move away unless she changes. She knows what she is doing. She is fighting for the love of her life and fighting another woman and does not know how to challenge you other than what she is doing......I wish you well on this. Being in love with a man as you are it would not be easy to leave your heart behind and go forward....Take care, Caroline

Please look up psychology and enmeshment and also psychology and healthy boundaries on google or dogpile.com this is a very sick relationship that is obviously supported by other family members if these people when they were kids wern't forced into therapy over this enmeshed behavour. So the whole family is likely like this and will be a part of the relationship and affecting it via these sick supporive family systematic behavior.