I Had Been In A Long Distance Relationship For 5 Months Then All Of A Sudden He Told Me His Feelings For Me Had Gone

I Thought Everything Was Fine We Always Had Fun Etc

Now He Wont Even Talk To Me He Talks To Me Like ****

And Ive Found Out That Her Had Texted His Ex Who He Was With 4 Years A Few Times While He Was With Me

And He Promised Me At The Beginingof The Relationship He Wouldnt Lie To Me But He Has

And He Doesnt Think He Has Done Anything Wrong 'its Just A Text'

Im Really Upset As I Love Him But Im So Angry He Has Lied To Me! And It Hurts So Much He Talks To Me Like ****!

Hi Hayley.

Firstly i would be saying to you, if you ask for a promise and it's not kept then truthfully "smile" and say to yourself, "your not good enough for me"... And, continue with your journey. Imagine 5 years from now? This Thread could have been, "hi, i'm married with 2 children and my husband cheated on me".... Sometimes it truly is "better you know the devil, instead of better the devil you know.

And, i am assuming you checked his phone, hense you found out that he texted his ex. Relationships are built on trust, and unfortunately, you have to trust until you establish otherwise but most people like their "personal space" and if invaded, do the running for the same reason, they don't want someone watching over their shoulder... Just a thought there.

So, if he is texting his ex of 4 years, then perhaps he hasn't quite moved on yet from her, that is a long time and i don't think that there is much you can do when a man has "emotionally" not let go totally.

Long distance is tough to, to try to keep it all exciting and lustful as you can't spend as much time together as you need to in order to grow a strong bond, especially over a 5 month period.

You've heard the saying " there are plenty fish in the sea" repeat it a dozen times a day to yourself. You will eventually smile and maybe one day tell him when he sends you a text message because you no longer show any interest...

You don't need a man calling you names..... Unless it's sweetheart... No point feeling horrid is there.

I also read on one of these posts around here, to pick an object remember one thing you do and did not like about that person, and have that object sitting in somewhere you can see it constantly, so when you look at that object it reminds you.

You are a "woman" regardless of age, so go and "roar" like a tigeress and know that the strong, manly lion you really want who will treat you the way you want, is around the corner, and forget the outcast, so to speak....

Good luck,

Well, I am in a long distance relationship at the moment and it can be very hard. You have to trust the person with everything for it to work. The fact that his feelings for you are "gone" could mean that he has been talking to his ex while you have been away, but it might not. It could be the fact that long distance relationships can be very hard and not everyone can be in one due to that.
The fact that he won't talk to you and when he does talk to you he makes you feel worthless is a HUGE red flag that you need to just call it quits with this guy. Also the fact that he has lied to you is a HUGE indicator too. A sucessful relationship is built on the foundation of trust of both parties, so if he is lying and you aren't that isn't a very good foundation and things will fall apart eventually if you catch my drift.
I would say that you need to leave him, I know that it is easier said than done, but if you stay he will continue to lie and not treat you the way that you deserve to be treated. You deserve better than that, I know you do. At the end of the day though, its your decision whether you stay or not.

Hope this helps and best of luck!!

I want to tell you I've been where you are right now. I have been in a ldr for 3 years with a man from Canada, and a married one at that. It's hard enough without that issue. What your bf has done to you this man has done to me many many times. I know of atleast one time he cheated, which is what finally caused our finaly breakup back in Jan.

I'm not sure I'll ever be able to handle a ldr again, because what I have figuered out is that its hard enough to have a relationship in your face let along to have one thats ldr. I am still dealing with and getting away from mine.

Take my advice and don't walk...but RUN from this person so he won't hurt you anymore. Find someone who deserves you and treats you the way you deserve to be treated. I am trying to take my own advice too. Take time to heal, then open your heart.

I read something that said,,,go on with your life, everyday, and at night when you are alone in your bed and need to cry, let it all out. Grieve for what you have lost and then one day you'll find you don't think of him at all, then you'll notice that he hardly ever crosses your mind at all. Then when you do think of him on occasion, smile and keep going.

It will get easier...much love and happiness to you.

Thanks everyone, everything all of you said has made sense!
This ex of his keeps messaging me trying to stir things up
i told him last night that i dont need head games and for them both to leave me alone and that they deserve each other!

as much as it hurts im trying to do it, it is very hard as he was the only person in my life that i could turn to etc

thanks for your help