Thread: scared of relationships or playing games?

thank for all your replies. i want to let you know ladies that i talked to him and let him know how i was feeling. I told him i understood where he was coming from related to long distance relationships because he tried before and his ex cheated on him. I agreed with him is hard to forget and i told him maybe the clue is not to forget but ovbiously we need to forgive. he said it was too hurt. he also said likes to be in control of his emotions and was not ready for a "serious" relationship. he said would like me to date other people besides him because we live far from each other and he is about to move again. he said has been seing other people and it really hurt me. he says does not take any time off between relationships and is always dating. i asked him if he took a time to grief after his ex, who he was thinking to marry two years ago, cheated and he said no.

during the time we were together and until he left we were just going out with each other but when he left he said he may date other women and i took my chance. he has been gone for three months and we have continued talking and seeing each other. i wanted to be in an exclusive relationship and he said no. i told him did not want to set myself for pain and since we were not looking for the same it was better for me to dont date him anymore. he said was fine and that i was a great, thoughtful, caring, and loving woman. then, he told me the only thing that went bad between us was sex. i was not expecting that, he said i was everything we was looking for but the sex was not the best. i told him i noticed it was taking a long time for him to get off and also he was kind of losing the erection. when i noticed that i talked to him (month ago)about it but he said it was nothing he could do on his part. back then, i felt very bad and read a lot of books, tried different positions and nothing. then, he said sex was not good most of the time since day one and i got upset because he did not say anything then. he said he did not say a word about it because did not want to make me cry. i thought he was selfish becuase seemed was not willing to work on it. i dont understand, if sex wasnt good why he kept going out wiht me. we dated since agost last year until january when he left. i asked if he did not say anything becasue he knew was leaving soon so he was not planning to continue in an exclusive relationship. he did not what to answer and in that moment i felt he was selfish. what do you guys thing?

i feel so sad, i think i did the right thing by deciding not to date him anymore. what do you guys think? i keep telling myself maybe he has other psychological problems that is affecting his sexual perfomance. i think maybe he was getting attached to me and all those feelings got mixed with his fears to trust and relationships and at the end affected our time together sexually. What do you think?


again thank you so much.

have a nice weekend. hope to hear back from you.

oh, i also told him, i like him a lot and for me every time i drove to see him was worth it because he is everything what i have looking for. i told him was not playin games and was being very honest about my feeling for him

i did it becasue that is how i feel but also to give him trust.