My husband has a coworker who I've only met twice when I was with my husband....he is at least 9 years older than me, kind of a quiet guy but attractive in a boyish way. The first time we all met as couples, he looked at me and said we should all go out sometime. I said to him "just pick a place and we'll figure it out." He followed us to the door and said to me "know -- you pick the place." Then the last time my husband had a business dinner with him, this person asked about me and said he wished I could have come. Recently, I ran into him unexpectedly at his workplace, a hospital. He was on his way to see a patient. He came up behind me and nudged me in the arm....when I noticed who it was, I was embarrassed but flattered and kind of smiled and said "hey" and nudged back....kind of friendly but interesting because like I said we've only met twice so we're not on long-term buddy terms and he had never touched me before. Anyway, he asked me how I was, made some other small talk and then asked me how I was a second time. I felt like a high school girl and was kind of embarrassed because he is a busy doctor and I knew he had more important things to do than talk to me. Does this sound like flirting or just being friendly to a co-worker's wife?

I talk to males all the time but rarely do I second-guess the interactions like this....I know I should stop thinking about it but it just has be curious about his intent. Not that I would ever act on this in a million years, but at 42 years old, it would just be nice to know if I still have something that is interesting to the male species. I love my husband and would never be unfaithful but I do enjoy being around the rare fun man who can flirt platonically in a joking manner. Just wondering why I'm obsessing over this brief innocent encounter.

Body language is an amazing thing, i think he may in addition have some charisma about him. He was bold in speaking to you at the door, in asking about you and wished that you had made it, and bold at nudging you.

At 42, is not relevant, it's more like you've been married for a long time probably and that attention takes you back before you were married i am sure, and it's nice to feel attractive to another male.

Also because he instantly recognised you and nudged you, that made you feel special.

I think he would be the sort of person that would take you into the broom room if you let him, then move on to the next conquest but irrespective, it's natural to feel beautiful in someone's eye.

Only thing different i would have done, would have added my husband's name into that conversation so that he knew you enjoyed the attention, but not available... You both would still have enjoyed that flirtatious moment.

But it is natural.

Thanks, interesting response and I did actually insert my husband's name into the conversation so I did the right thing there. It probably was nothing...!

No, i think he has the "hots for you". Just saying, men are men and by touching you, he could be checking for the "boundry" there....