Update: After too many ignored calls and messages, on Sunday I had no choice but to talk to him. He decided to go to my house knowing that he had a big chance of me not wanting to see him. My mom convinced me of talking to him.

When we talked, he swore for his grandma that he didn't cheat on me. His grandma is sacred for him, so that kind of made me believe him. I don't know how but we just ended up getting together. I say I don't know how because I don't believe his story. He was giving me eye contact and talking to me very serious but I just don't believe him.

He told me that the woman that he talked to at 2:30 am on Friday was about a work related meeting that they were going to have on Monday. She called him to ask him at what time was the meeting going to be and since the phone call got cut he had to call her back. That is how he explained to me the incoming and outgoing call, which I don't believe.

Another thing that makes the whole situation kind of fishy is that the woman told him that she called me many, many times to clear things up. She told him that I would say that it was the wrong number and hang up on her. He said that he made sure that she was calling the right number and that he was sure she had called. Weird thing is that I had no missed calls and I have not talked to her since what happened, I only got one message from her a week after the incident. Why would a serious older woman lie to him about that????

He also just told me that he has to work on Saturday. He has not worked on a Saturday for the longest time. I think he is lying and has to make it up to the "woman" for texting me and making me believe that there is nothing going on between them.

I totally can't believe a word he says. PLEEEEEESE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Well, i am a great believer of Body Language. I met Allan Peace and had him work with small businesses through my business for 3 years and if he looked you straight in the eye and didn't waver he gets my vote.

In addition, he has come straight out and told you what "she said", that "she said" "she called you and that you said wrong number many times and hung up. But "he" gave her the right number...

In my opinion he has no reason to bring this "in-correct information into play.

I suspect that he therefore did ask her to tell you that nothing was going on because nothing was.

I suspect that she is either an drama queen and likes to exadurate therefore well i tried dear but, or she likes him and is playing a game that he can't see but one that would send you over the edge and let him go, so she can have a go.

That's what i read when you wrote what you did.

Trust is important, if he went to the length of getting her to call, and he swore on his grandma whom he adores and he turned up at your doorstep, looked you in the eye.

Don't trust her, in my books but give this guy a go.....

It seems to me that she is your problem, not him.

She may even have co-orced him to work Sat to assist with something and he is obvlious, as he is stating that she called him at 2.30 to ask about a meet, cut of and he had to call back...

I would simply let him know that you do believe him, you won't accept cheating and be wary of women, you know that they can be quite seducterous babe, perhaps she wants you love, i mean, i never hung up as she didn't speak to me for more than once...

This way you are telling him, of your thoughts of her, but in a "cool" way, that will also make him think be wary and also know, better not go there ever if he wants you...



CW

With as many lies as you are seeing, how can you trust him? The decision is yours and only you can make it...Much luck...Caroline

I guess i can only agree with rcoreyus, it will eat at you.

And, if you are willing to give it a chance as you have no proof either way, and not look for that proof then see where it goes..

I also agree with Caroline regarding protection but you have answered that.

Yes, it appears that he lied at the beginning i don't deny that. But as you say you are a "gulable person", you therefore are also a suspiscious person and there is no reason to not believe that he found it easier to therefore let it all alone. Until, it reached a head where he had to.

I just don't see a co-worker getting involved in conversations unless there is envolvement or wanting of.

So, yes Caroline, that i where i saw her, as she made the initial call at 2.30am, she made the initial call at 3am, or text message and she supposidly stated to him that she continued to try and call but was hung up on... it was that sentence the last one that got me, as why would he bring a lie like that into a story to protect himself? Surely that would make matters worse, saying that she tried on going and your girl is lying when your trying to make up, unless he's ******.

But then, maybe that's the case....

CW

Today he offered to give me his work number so I could call and verify he was actually going to work. Not sure I want to go there.

Thanks to everybody that has been sharing their thoughts.

I'm sticking to what i said, and rcoreyus's comments, don't question, take it easy and slow and give him the benefit of the doubt, sounds to me like's he's going to great lengths to prove himself.

If he was contemplating, he won't be doing it in a hurry again, he's seen your wrath and obviously wants this relationship.

Best wishes.

CW

I know how you feel, I don't think I could believe him either. The one thing that you said he said was that he swore on his grandma because his grandmother...well I'm not sure if you've read any of my threads of my situation but the man I was with swore to me on his own kids life everytime he was trying to convince me he wasn't lying. His own kids, now that should be sacred to him,,,and he was lying everytime, thats scarey.

Anyway, please don't think I am saying he isn't telling you the truth but I wanted you to know I can understand why you are doubting him so much. It all sounds fishy to me from both her and him. I would take all the time you need to figuer it out for yourself. You have the control to do what you want and need to do with your life and your relationship with him. Just take time for you to think.

I hope everything works out for you, whatever you may decide. Be careful with your feelings and your heart. Follow your instinct. A women's intuition is usually dead on.

Take care

just4me: Thanks for sharing that with me. I guess a guy will swear on whatever is necessary to get their way. I have been reading your threads but don't know what to tell you. Hopefully you are able to stay away from that manipulative man.

Last night my bf and me had another big argument that finished with everything. Once again I looked through his cell phone. He didn't have any received text messages while he had sent 2 text messages to "alex1". I was wondering why had he erased the messages that he received from "alex1" while forgetting to erase the ones that he sent to him, one at 11:44 pm and the other one at 11:56pm. The first message that he sent said "what happened". The second message said "No tell me ok". Everything sounded fishy to me and I wanted to find out the truth.

For reference: he had previously told me that alex is his coworker that had been off of work for about a month bc his wife had a baby and he was taking care of her. He also told me that alex's sister in law lives with him and his wife. Alex's sister in law works at the same place that my bf does but in a different shift. She works from 5:40 am to 2:40 pm.

After I saw the text messages I called "alex1" to make sure it was not another girl. When I called a girl answered the phone. Once again, a girl!!! I asked for alex and the only thing the girl said was "I can't talk, I am at work" and hung up. I asked my bf about who was really "alex1" on his phone. He told me it was his coworker. Taken the small history of Alex, nothing makes sense of what my bf told me.

Why would a girl answer his cell phone. My bf said it could have been his wife or sister in law. None of that makes sense. His wife just had a baby, she doesn’t work. His sister in law works a different shift, from 5:40 am to 2:40 pm. I just called yesterday at 10:40 pm so it couldn’t have been his sister in law that took his phone to work because she works during the day.

What should I think about all of this????????? Could I just be trying to find thing just bc I don’t trust him anymore????

I asked myself, why alex had his cell phone the night before (when he text my bf) and why a day later a girl has Alex's cell phone? It for sure was not his wife or sister in law....I mean who else would be using his cell phone???? Besides, nowadays, who lends their cell phone to anybody????

Please Help me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!