Only reading this post again, do I realize that I thought that she was JUST THINKING of having this affair...This was reflected in my post...Now I realize that this had already transpired.

Being a woman that has never had a full sexual affair with a man, I find it so hard to imagine a woman giving of herself body and soul without some feelings. To be able to give all that she is sexually both inside and out, and make love to him without having some deep feelings of possible love, is quite an accomplishment... It is probably just me, but I also think that as a woman ages, she fears the unknown.....

This is not a part of life that I know.....I am not sure if I wish I did, or not...Probably not...Safer for me here...

Believe what he's telling you.

If you think he wants more, despite his words to the contrary, perhaps you are the one who subliminaly wants more???

do whatever you like - as long as you have mutual agreement!
Be open - explain what you want out of the relationship - then it is all fair game