And it may be a bit lengthy:_

My ex- Office Manager moved herself and her little one to Adelaide to be around family when she found out her husband had had an affair.

He followed, with the "mistress" now girlfriend.

Baby was 12 month old and they attempted to be amicable.

She shared issues, sexually whereby he demanded and be-littled her as well and well, she seeked councelling with is great.

Her mother is "controlling" you should have married a Lawyer, your job is belittling, hense "ex- Office Manager" she is 29.

My girls get on really well and i am at employing their own age group so they can relate and talk etc.

This OM, has tried three relationships but " reel in, push away, reel in push away" to the point of blatent nastiness leaving all 3 very hurt and upset. If she was "hungry" she'd ring, if not she'd say "what's your problem you have issues, get over it find someone else, can't you see i just use you".. Mmm.

Pretty little thing size 6 with balls, well she thinks.

So my PM, Property Manager is 23, now took me a lllllllllllllllong time to understand this but her boyfriend of 3 years, is financially lets say well of, and 50.

He had cancer, and went into himself for the past 12 months, she left did her oats thing and is now trying again and he knows it all.

It's a strang bond between them but it is real, let's say she is 23 going on 33 if i can because we talk alot about life and things.

So, i have never questioned her, just said be sure...

Now the trick question... She befriended the OM, of course age is simular and they went out a lot. He the "boyfriend" of the PM, bought 2 bottles of Moet on an occasion she, the OM, wrote on a site, thanks for the Moet, but your still a loser... ?

Now, she has cussed him to my PM ten fold and also stated to her and hurt her, gee your demanding, when asked lets go out go away, but when she wants to go out, i'm your friend. OM, states, you have physcoloical problems you need a life, get a life, that type of thing.

So, the PM, sorry, Property Manager, is back with her man and told him what the OM< Office Manager said about him, she keeps telling the PM, he's a loser.

Of course he confronted her, she rang her parents to attend and then handed him a note, you will need this and gave him her phsycologist number and name.

She then told the boyfriend well she slept with that guy more than once, your a sucker, used, she should have returned the handbag when she left you etc etc, she's nutters and you realy need this number.

My PM i think is smart.

She said " She is not a true friend, she has hurt me i am so mad with her but what shall i do, not reply to her emails, calls?"

So, i advised her to do exactly that.

To know that she is playing both sides, not a true friend, not one that is needed in her life and never ever speak with her again, regardless.

So my question is, did i give her the right advice?

Because, she is not nieve, a very intelligent little thing and beautiful in nature. It is her choice if he is 50 and she is 23, and they are good together believe it or not.

But i just believe there is no revenge, better than letting go of an interfering friend that plays both sides and ignore them.

PM is hurting and i have been asked my advice. That was it.

Would you give the same?

She is like the daughter i never had.

Bye the way, her parents didn't agree of course to start with regarding the age diff, but have grown to like this guy and he treats her well does not give her luxury, but teaches her to save, and stand on her own two feet but looks after her. Perhaps it is a "father image" but not my call as to their relationship...

I just want to know if that is what you would do, let the "friend" non, go and never ever reply again.. Get on with your life..

Thanks.

CW