I figured if anyone was going to get me on that one it would be you... I guess I did not get the feeling of "urgency" in the post. Or maybe I was just misreading it...It was around this age when that woman made a big play for my sailor....With this in mind if I had known this at the time I would be a basket case...But maybe she is too. Only when you fear the loss of someone that you love to another woman, does the hair on the back of your neck stand straight up....Maybe she does feel this...Then add the thought of another woman being carressed and loved the way that he has done to you and you just can't sleep....

This is something that he and she must talk about...She must be able to walk away from this conversation with complete trust in him and know that she is the queen of all his thoughts and another woman does not enter into any of his sexual thoughts. These are the things that are necessary to go forward in a marriage that has been slightly fractured...They both are not children...They both have another marriage in back of them and now it is time for them both to figure out if this is good or not....

Again just my thoughts on this......but I did mess up on the spooning...

C

Your my inspiration Caroline, when i first got on here, read what you wrote, you teezed me, with your age... I'm thinking 50... your laughing at me. (In a good way)

Do you type speed, i mean you have your own site, you must reply to so many that your fingers hurt, i have read so many and will continue to do so... From what i see, you read, reply and then "like me" read again and go bugger, i missed that... lol...

Yeah, we can spoon, we can do lots of things, sugar, we can do them till the cows come home, then some, and we can do it till eternity.

I don't pick you up, i remind you that your all woman... a big difference.....

I am me, you are you, i won't change me, you won't change you and you know what?

Why would we.....

Gee hope you had a day of from sex, cause you always make me jealous....

xx

CW

I am 48 and he is 52. The two of them were a couple almost 30 years ago according to him. Since then she has been married and divorced several times. Which says to me that he cheated on her with his first wife. Simple math. We have been together 23 years and married 20 of those years. He had been divorced from his first wife for a year when we met. He married his first wife when he was 20.
The only thing that is saving him right now is the fact that she lives in FL. There were no calls or texts on this past months bill, which says either he did stop talking to her or he has found another way.

Wow...I didnt' realize that this was happening to so many other women...I am dating a younger man than me. I recently discovered that he has been multi texting a girl at his work...55 times in one day...49 another...I only found out because I had to activate his new cell phone on my computer while he was at work. Lo and behold...what is this?!!? I ran straight to his work and asked who it was...having an idea myself I looked it up and my suspicions were correct. You see everytime I talk about this, I convince myself that staying with him was wrong...I mean he lied about her age, her hair color, who she acutally was. I textd her myself and asked her very nicely to leave my boyfriend alone...her response? F*#k off you cougar...you are a crazy ! All we did was talk about our different backgrounds! Anyhow, there is no doubt the man loves me, but now I feel like a mother watching his every move...I hate not trusting him...having to check his texts daily, and I also have a keylogger (a wonderful little invention by the way). But I dearly love him...to absolute death...

The funny thing is how some think that it was wrong but still ok. Just forgive and forget because supposedly there was nothing sexual. But really if it isn't cheating why the need to lie or cover up? And there was opportunity for it to be sexual, you ask but would they really tell the truth when for so long they lied over who they actually were in the first place. They know how much they have to lose once they are caught but didn't care while they were in it.
I even asked my husband what changed between all that time when you felt the need to talk to her for hours and send texts? And during her visits being able to see her because I trusted he had given the truth. He said nothing has changed but he realizes that I am what he wants and where he wants to be. Pretty hard to believe huh? If nothing changed nothing was wrong in the first place so why did you do it? That is what men do? Right I think that is the lamest excuse ever made and you can bet it was started by a man. We have the same temptations all the time. We are approached all the time, we have old boyfriends who would welcome. But iit is only a guy thing to act on them? They can't help it? Yeah right.
The only thing that changed is you got caught. Just like the song, "don't tell me your sorry cause your not, your just sorry you got caught" you had no problem during the situation and it would still be going on if not!!!

If I found a keylogger on my computer my girl would be out on her arse in a matter of minutes.

Outrageous.

ready everyone?

anon?

brace yourself:

i agree.