Thread: How To Get Over Someone's Past...

Originally Posted by vivian19

And i know hes just as easy for sleeping with them too...and its disgusting that he would do that...

It's just not the same for men and women, and it's naive to assume it is. Women treat sex emotionally, as they're the ones left with the repercussions (before our society developed to the point it has now). They're the ones that have to look for good fathering material, etc. Wheras men will spread their seed, it's all genetics.

A woman might have lots of emotional/physical/financial hoops to jump through, whereas the man has already made up his mind when he sees a nice walking past. So, for it being "easy" for a man, it is simply that they can bluff their way through the guards that a woman has set up. A man doing this is not being "easy" - sure he's being predatory, callous etc. - but there is a difference.

If I'm understanding how the word "easy" was being used in the posts -

Originally Posted by anonymouswhitefemale

It's just not the same for men and women, and it's naive to assume it is. Women treat sex emotionally, as they're the ones left with the repercussions (before our society developed to the point it has now). They're the ones that have to look for good fathering material, etc. Wheras men will spread their seed, it's all genetics.

I don't think a girl that is labeled as "easy" would fit the above. She's labeled "easy" because as the term implies she'll sleep with anyone therefore she is easy to get in the bed.

Originally Posted by anonymouswhitefemale

A woman might have lots of emotional/physical/financial hoops to jump through, whereas the man has already made up his mind when he sees a nice walking past. So, for it being "easy" for a man, it is simply that they can bluff their way through the guards that a woman has set up. A man doing this is not being "easy" - sure he's being predatory, callous etc. - but there is a difference.

A guy that takes advantage of an "easy" female, easy? No, I don't think so. Callous, yes. I think it also can be a lack of respect for females and seeing them only as something to use. He takes advantage of the situation for his own benefit.

for all this easy talk...which kinda started when i mentioned that my b/f slept with some "easy" girls, mind you he was like 14....so as for the "he should respect women" he very well does respect women, there is no question about it. But if he calls a girl easy its because its true, and its not due to a lack of respect for WOMEN in general, its a lack of respect for that individual because they had no respect for themself.

Originally Posted by Ravsoma

You can do what you want. I just think it's horrible that a female would be another female down. I know you feel a one-up because you're with him now, but still. It doesn't make you any better than the other girls.

It doesn't make me any better?
I was a virgin, and really valued it...and i waited just as i had always wanted to, and it turned out to be perfect, the time the place everything.
As for a particular girl who slept with him before, she was a virgin to, and loast her virginity with another girl in the room, and later when i asked her why did she lose it to him, she told me she wanted to get it over with. The second time she had sex, was with a different guy, and she slept with him because he told her he had a "rule" that after a certain amount of time of knowing a girl, he has to have sex with them. YES rule, but it got her in bed.
I can call her any name in the world, and i may stoop low for calling her it, but on those terms, i respected my self and waited SO either way, i am better than her. Not trying to sound concieted, but if i call and easy girl easy, i don't think that is all it takes for me to stoop as low as her.

Originally Posted by vivian19

for all this easy talk...which kinda started when i mentioned that my b/f slept with some "easy" girls, mind you he was like 14....so as for the "he should respect women" he very well does respect women, there is no question about it. But if he calls a girl easy its because its true, and its not due to a lack of respect for WOMEN in general, its a lack of respect for that individual because they had no respect for themself.

Just as an FYI I wasn't speaking of or referring to your boyfriend, hope I didn't offend. I was making comment(s) in reply to Anon's post.

I agree, no respect for themselves.

Originally Posted by Fallen1

I don't think a girl that is labeled as "easy" would fit the above. She's labeled "easy" because as the term implies she'll sleep with anyone therefore she is easy to get in the bed.

I was saying that this is the way in which women percieve sex... an easy woman is still a woman, just that the defensive hoops and guards that she has are not exactly rigerous. But yeah, they can also be dumb enough not to even think anything but 3 seconds into the future.