Hi I am 36 yr old female that has never had sex or and orgasm
my last bf was this past nov we fooled around orally and still never had an orgam he never penatrated me,i prolonged telling him and just figured i let it ride and just go with the flow but on the 2nd date I had to tell him because he wanted to come back to my place and at 36 how do i tell him he cannot come back to my apt,so that is when I had to tell him I was a virgin and he was good with that TG all that oral that we did do was on the 2nd date....
anyway I have been on the internet looking to meet someone and with no luck, but remember all i had was oral done to me and i am feeling very horney and i just want to get the whole sex thing over with, i try to masterabate but never reach and orgasm . i wanna feel like a women and have sex, the older i get the harder it is for me to meet a guy and tell him that i am still a virgin. I know i have waited this long to have sex but just want to do it already..

Are you ok with just meeting someone for the purpose of having sex to get it out of the way? That might be an option.

i just may want to do that, i know that sounds so bad since I have waited so long for that special someone i have tried to do it myself and but just cannot orgasm i am soooo confused with the whole situation

If you are expecting to orgasm the first time you may be setting yourself up for some major disappointment.

It seems that you have been waiting for a reason, which now is no longer important to you.

But, i just want to say, that as you have spent all your teenage/youth & young adulthood a Virgin, running off and doing it with Joe Blow, may make you feel worse the next day and subconsciously effect you.

I am not saying, "don't do it", off course not. Women can walk in a door anywhere, smile at a bunch of men and one of them will try to pick them up, if not more than 1.

I am saying, get out there, start mingling, meeting, go on a date, and then go on a second one with that person and if you like him do it.

At least, you can feel good about yourself to finally have experienced it, whilst at the same time, having experienced it with someone at least you knew a tad and liked a bit.

CW

From a guys point of view: You don't need to tell the guy. Its mostly the guys job anyway. Just go with the flow. Tell him you are just nervous.