Thread: Reconnecting with an old Love

Originally Posted by SandySmiles

Hello everyone. I'm new to the site and am hoping for a bit of advice. I finally got the opportunity to contact an old love from 15 years ago. We are both single and not in other relationships. We had a nice telephone conversation that lasted about 40 minutes, and even included a few laughs. Our breakup was not ugly. At the end of this conversation, I asked him if perhaps I could buy him lunch or something sometime, and he replied with, "you never know." Do I take his response on its face value, or does it mean forget it? I'm certain he was quite surprised to hear from me after so many years. My question is where do I go from here? I obviously don't want to contact him again too soon, nor do I want to just sit around and play the wait and see game forever. I sincerely would like to have this man in my life again. What is appropriate? Has anyone else had this experience? Your suggestions would be very much appreciated!

Hi Sandysmiles and welcome.

Well, you could be clutching at straws, your single again ( so am i) and so you contacted a past person... You don't know where they are at in their life, regardless of what you both spoke about, as 40 minutes isn't long really... The last person i spoke to where interest was sparked went from 8pm - 4am, but i'm still biding my time... I make no moves.

If he said "you never know" sorry that's saying nice talking to you again but i am not ready, or i don't want to re-visit, or no.

Sorry.

It may have nothing to do with you, just not what he wants, full stop, to have a date...

Don't call, don't write, don't do anything, keep on your search but honestly, looking doesn't make things happen, things just happen when your not looking...

You can go to many areas to find a new man in your life, but the key is in your mind " don't look, don't search", they will find you when you least expect it, and it does happen.

I can truly say to you that i have two keen people at the moment that talk to me daily, yes, daily... I also have a couple that try to..every few days, and those that have given up.

I leave it all to them, when i talk, i talk, but i never inituate anything, it makes them wonder, makes them think and makes them interested based on our previous laughter and conversations, except for my new found younger friend, whom is a different kettle of fish....

Point being, that let him ponder, wonder, when he doesn't hear from you again, if there was an interest, he will contact you, if he is still emotionally hung up he won't.

And, just be you, but always let them make the moves.

CW