Thread: Is it a bad idea, am I crazy for wanting it

Originally Posted by tipsterwest

and also, 'advice' shouldn't start with 'yet you still slept with him, even though he was with someone else..'

correct me if i'm wrong, that just sounds like judgment. not advice. and wrong judgment to be more precise. my apologies if it's rude to think this is not smart. but i still think it isn't.

tipsterwest
During his first few months with her, he was still contacting me (for sex basically). I finally told him to stop or I would tell his girl. He threatened me and we exchanged some pretty nasty emails.

It is obvious that you took offense to an immediate "thought" that you had slept with him and this is not whom you are. You have Morals. So you retaliated, in that regard.

Your opinion is that it is "not smart" to assume, "not judge" but assume as no where did I judge or tell you, you were stup1d...

This is an Internet Site, often people post something and it can read differently to 1 reader or more. The above of what you wrote, simply sounded like this:-

"Whilst he was going out with her, he was still contacting me for sex basically... I told him to stop or i would tell. He threatened me.?"

It is "logical" that someone can read exactly what you said in the fashion that i took it, exactly...

Let you in on a secret... I came from an abusive controlling relationship.

I would hassed at a guess, that i am also older than you.

So, controlling, abusive, he threatened you, you told him to stop, i think if you again, re-read my reply in this regard, I offered you advice, sound advice based on experience...

Judgemental? You wrote the comment, i read it how i read it... i didn't judge you.

However, no point holding in what is not even there, I am sure that other's will continue to offer their thoughts and advice as well.

CW