Thread: Advice

I just need to get my frustration out. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 yrs. We have been living together for 2 1/2 years. We both have Two boys from previous relationships. I am glad that they visit us every weekend. It just gets to me sometimes when their dad is somewhere else and they ask me when their dad will be home. My boyfriend is in a band and they ususally play every weekend during the summer. But right now his band has a three week break. This friday the band decided to practice at 7:30 and they can only practice until 10. (city curfew). I have no problem with him going and all, but i feel bad for his kids who are here waiting for him to get home. He called me about 10pm telling me that he is going to a buddie's home to have a beer. I know thats not possible for him just to have one cause he likes to drink alot. I already had this discussion with him a week or two ago. I once overheard his son telling my son that he doesn't like it when his dad comes home drunk. My son asked why and he responded that he didnt like it because he was always loud and it would wake him up. I told my boyfriend that conversation that they had and he felt bad. But right now I don't think he is even thinking of either one of us. He tells me that when this happens this is an escape of stresses of life (which never ever happens). The thing that I think is when he is trying to "rid of stessess of life" he is just adding to ours. Can any one give me advice or some kind of insight on this??

When his sons are with him they should be his priority. There may be things he needs to do but drinking with his mates isn't one of them.

This also leaves you at home looking after all the children, which is part of a relationship when you have children but he is pushing things a bit too far.

Communication is the key here. try and get him to empathise about what this is like for his boys and for you.

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