Thread: Oral

Any suggestions on how I can get my bf to really come while I give him a bj? I know he can but it's not a lot. Is there some new technique I can try to make him go WOW? He was making noise that I've never heard last night while I was going that. I was doing it really fast. I want to try something better and newer.

Thanks again

Also, I forgot to add this. What about him? When he goes down on me? Any suggestions? Anything new he can try?

Thanks

DH posted this once and its good advise. Men can't read minds... Feedback is essential.
On how to help him be able to get you to climax quietly say one or more of the following.

To the left.
To the right.
Higher
Lower
faster!
Softer
Harder!!!
DON'T STOP!

He says that he has tried spelling words with his tongue but the above works much better.
;-)

Holding his head and moving him around a bit also helps but nothing is better then direct communication. It doesn't have to be loud "ORDERS" or anything. In fact DH says its very erotic and he loves very much the feedback. When I started holding his head he said this also is a turn on.

*oh one last suggestion. One of two fingers stroking the G spot can be a nice addition. Some women like anal "action" as well. For me? Maybe after a drink or three but most of the time not.

If anyone ever figures out how to Female Ejaculate THAT I would like to know about ;-)

Originally Posted by Phoebee

If anyone ever figures out how to Female Ejaculate THAT I would like to know about ;-)

[sounds of whistling...dee doo da dee....]

First of all, anticipation does wonders for most boys I know. Second, warm enough but not too warm...you know based on how many covers he likes at night.

Something to try on your bf is - assuming no one in your relationship is ready to have their anus played with - to take the pads of your index and middle fingers (not the tip, but the pad, where your fingerprint is), place it against his perineum, and put a little pressure on his perineum. (I mean a little, just so he can feel your fingers there.) When you have a nice beginning rhythm established, start moving together with your rhythm, then build and back off and then build...etc. As he's getting closer to coming I would also keep your mouth where you know he's most sensitive.

If you've played with each other's bums then you can go there too, gently.... by massaging the perineum you're basically touching the prostate, which is nervous system central on guys.

For the ladies, well, it depends on the lady. Definitely agree on the just telling him where and how and when you want it.

My other half prefers blow jobs that aren't all full on mouth penetration...he prefers things like..licking, sucking, rubbing, nibbling and the occasional deep throat every now and then.

Something that works for us is teasing each other for a while first, VERY passionate kissing, the occasional touch but only for a few seconds, light neck biting and hair pulling, running nails down his/your back and keep this up until your pretty much a horny maniac really...THEN go down on him and things just pop into your head and you put A LOT more feeling into what your doing.


Eating strong mints beforehand works too or just after you've brushed your teeth
umm
With ice in your mouth



If he's sat on the edge of the bed/sofa/chair and your knelt in front of him, take your top off and push your boobs around his member, tilt your head down so your mouth is still available at the same time


This ones good! Hold his shaft firmly, squeeze (hard but not too hard) and release but do it to a count like...as if your counting upto five

1 2 3 4 5
Squeeze Release Squeeze Release Squeeze

and as your doing this, on the underside of the penis is the frenulum (stringy bit) point your tongue and lick it quite hard also with each count


hope that helped?

Thank you for the suggestions.

Also, try to find out what sort of "mood" he likes. Does he want you to be lusting after him ("I want your C*** right now")? Submissive ("I've been bad, so I'll do this for you")? Obedient ("I am yours, do whatever you want with any part of me")? Dominating ("I'm going to make you C** and there is nothign you can do about it"). Playfull / teasing ("Maybe I will...maybe not...ok for a bit...stop.....more") or a whole hose of other moods. Diffferent men like different thigns - and the same man may like something different on different occasions.

BTW - obviously the "submissive / obedient" is in play, I'm certainly not suggesting you do anything you don't want to do.

Originally Posted by Phoebee

DH posted this once and its good advise. Men can't read minds... Feedback is essential.
On how to help him be able to get you to climax quietly say one or more of the following.

To the left.
To the right.
Higher
Lower
faster!
Softer
Harder!!!
DON'T STOP!

He says that he has tried spelling words with his tongue but the above works much better.
;-)

Holding his head and moving him around a bit also helps but nothing is better then direct communication. It doesn't have to be loud "ORDERS" or anything. In fact DH says its very erotic and he loves very much the feedback. When I started holding his head he said this also is a turn on.

*oh one last suggestion. One of two fingers stroking the G spot can be a nice addition. Some women like anal "action" as well. For me? Maybe after a drink or three but most of the time not.

If anyone ever figures out how to Female Ejaculate THAT I would like to know about ;-)

Pheobee gives good advice. We guys cannot read minds. We need directions.

Msg for Pheobee: Do you really want to learn how to ejaculate? My lady and I learned together how to make her ejaculate. Now she like Niagra Falls.

If you really want instructions/guidance, let me know. She loves it. VERY intense and satisfying.

Owl.

I'm almost afraid to ask how to F.E. but I will. We've tried it and DH has this book the "G SPOT" which so far has been an experience in frustration. If this is just "peeing" I'm not interested.

Originally Posted by Phoebee

I'm almost afraid to ask how to F.E. but I will. We've tried it and DH has this book the "G SPOT" which so far has been an experience in frustration. If this is just "peeing" I'm not interested.

Women are so far apart on this it's not even funny. Most women love intercourse first, oral second, and hand sex (that is, from a guy) a distant third. Women with active G-spots are different, they will respond to hand stimulation like it's the main course. But the guy has to know what he's doing, he has to be good with his hands. It starts with loving, patient work around the clitoris and labia, then working his way in. Seriously, you may have to dedicate an entire day to it, just lounging around the bedroom in a spirit of experimentation. Some women learn to love it, others think it's about as erotic as a pelvic exam.

There's an art to it. That's all I can say.