please help!!! sex issues - Page 2

**N01** · #11 09-15-2008, 04:08 AM

was there a time when you didnt feel this way? was there a time where you did have the big O regularly? if so, what changed?

mummyof2 · #12 09-15-2008, 04:20 AM

nope i have always been like this....i have only been with one serious person so all this stuff with my new guy is all very new to me

**CHANDLERS WISH** · #13 09-15-2008, 04:35 AM

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Originally Posted by mummyof2

ok thanks guys..but i dont even think id be comfortable doing that even.i dont know why i dont have any confidence in myself to do anything..wen i was with my ex he was a bit critising(not like really bad)but he did put me down a little bit while we were having sex and i think thats y i dont want to do anything..im happy just laying there sometimes lol. and half the time i know im not going to orgasm so i dont try to make the effort and i dont know how to get past that, i have a vib which gets me every time i use it, but dont want to use it with my new guy cause my ex used to get offended wen i used it cause it could get me there and he couldnt, and i dont want that to happen again, i know every male is different but that is just how i feel.....

Firstly don't feel un-comfortable

stop the lol, because we actually are listening and we know that you are feeling un-comforatable over all of this and that's ok...

The reasons why you are "suffering" and you are, and you can't "be yourself" is exactly what you know.

Your ex made you feel like shite... Scotish for um... lol. Now you can laugh..

He was a what am I allowed to say um, wank er? you need to realise that, this past guy thought he was all that, or else wanted you to feel that you were not all that, so he could get even More.

FORGET HIM...

He was useless, PAST, haha, this is your PRESENT and actually your FUTURE, be it with this guy or the next.

What you want that stup1d past one to WIN?

YOU WIN... forget him and just do and enjoy you are ALL THAT, that guy probably had his own insecurities said what he said so you would stay with him, nothing less nothing more.

Let him go and see the freedom that you can actually have..

CW

mummyof2 · #14 09-15-2008, 05:12 AM

oh sorry bout the lol's thats just me.everything u said makes perfect sense it is so true..yes i do need to let him go, easier said then done though...thanks for the advice

**CHANDLERS WISH** · #15 09-15-2008, 05:30 AM

don't be sorry it's how he made you feel and you do, need to let him go so you can be you xxx

Okay, lol..

SCREAM IT it's okay

I was just seeing how you feel

CW

**Muskitos** · #16 09-15-2008, 06:30 AM

Hi mummy of 2,

Here is a mummy of 4.

Your new friend sounds great to me. He seams to be open minded.
You said you can have big O's when using a vibrator. How about feeding this information to your friend? Just let it slip out of your mouth.

From what you telling, he wants to give you lots of pleasure. I am quite sure he will love the thought of you and the vibrator and will beg you to use it when with him.

Hey, it is ok to use tools when having sex with a guy. The most important thing is for both of you to enjoy/have fun.

Go for it!

**Muskitos** · #17 09-15-2008, 06:33 AM

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Originally Posted by Fire(m)

How about this...easy for you.

1) All you have to do is give him a "look". You know the look, that look that says "do me NOW!"
2) Just tell him that you're feeling a little sleepy and you want to go take a "nap". Then get up and start walking away, taking clothing items off as you go. He'll chase you down in 1/2 second...trust me.

Your problem is a good problem to have because there are a lot of quick easy fixes to it.

Cheers.

Fire(m),

Does nr 2 really works? Also in long(er) term relationship?
There is nothing wrong with me, I believe most people (men and women) would describe me as quite attractive but I never could convince myself that simple things like this were enough to get a guy going.

**owlhunter** · #18 09-15-2008, 11:13 AM

Muskitos,

We guys are VERY simple. It does not take much to get us going. I'm serious. And if it doesn't work, take the nap!