Thread: hand jobs

Does anybody have any advice about hand jobs? I've always been self-conscious about them, and I haven't really given one in years because I can't help but think that the guy is thinking about how he could do a much better job than I (since he's probably got years of experience masturbating).

However, I'm tired of having this limitation, so I'm looking for tips/advice. I'm fine with talking to my boyfriend about what he specifically likes, but any and all advice would be great.

Thanks.

Hmmmm. I had this problem with my last boyfriend. My advice is to do it whenever you feel comfortable and not worry how it feels. Most every guy is obviously gonna be able to do it better because most guys masturbate, but the fact that you want to help him out sexually will make most any man feel pretty good. Ask him how he likes it, have him guide your hand the way he does it, make it feel stimulating for the both of you. Just the fact that you wanna learn how to do it the way he does to make it feel better for him will make him happy, and that's what matters. As far as tips and tricks go, every guy is different, there's not really any universal way to give a guy a hand job that every one is going to like. Just try it out and you'll soon learn the niche of it with your specific guy.

theres so many books about sex that have pictres and diagrams if youre really worried.. thers so many different ways .. use pressure and change up the speeds so he doesnt know whats comming next and dont worry about him doing it better. im sure hed RATHER a girl pleasure him than do it himself..

He is probably faster, but he almost certainly prefers you doing it. Remember its not a race - you can make it last longer, which makes it more intense when he finishes.

You can have him show you what he likes - while you put on a show for him.

Good for you!!! He will love the fact that you want to please him so badly. So maybe I'm the freak that will give you some more advise. Use a small amount of lube, not too much cause it makes it too sloppy. The key is to build the suspense. You can do it several ways but if you are totally comfortable with each other you can really blow his mind and use both hands if he is ok with you sitting next to him just focusing on him. If he is used to you laying next to him you can still use two hands to massage all of the penis and balls if he is into that. Go from the bottom the shaft area up to the top but stay away from the head for awhile. That will tease him like crazy, the head is the key to the pleasure point so in order to build the suspense and make the orgasm intense just keep away from the tip for awhile. While you have one hand moving up and down slowly, if he is into having is balls played with use your other hand to play with those by massaging gently, not squeezing, also slide your hand with slight pressure along the perinium area, that is the area between is balls and the anal opening. Dont get freaked out, stay away from the area, he may not be comfortable with that but the distance between is a sensitive area that men love massaged, in my experience. When you are ready to get him off, start to do long strokes including the head and while you are going up and down slide your hand from one side of the penis to the other side meaing that the palm of you hand glides over the head. Then just put your hand around the top part of the penis right below the head, like making a hole with your hand touching your thumb to your fingers and start massaging the top half of the tip faster while letting your thumb glide along the tip with each stroke. Make sure you still have lube and then as he gets ready to climax you will have to increase the speed always touching the tip. That is the secret spot at least for my guy it is. Once he gets off you dont want to just stop stroking him you want to slow it down but stay away from the head after he cums. It gets too sensitive and they cant handle it. Sorry if that was too much. Enjoy it, its a blast. Good luck.

Variety is good. You can lie next to him and gently stroke him while you kiss. You can kneel in front of him while he sits on the edge of the bed or on the sofa. You can sit on his stomach facing his feet so he can't see what you are doing. You can tie him to the bed and tease him mercilessly before finially finishing him.

What works depends on the man but: Using both hands maybe twice a second and some lube to simulate intercourse is probably the fastest. One slow stroke every 2 seconds (no faster) will probably tease him but only finish him after a very long time (he may not be able to lie still for this).

I'm not a big fan of most of the commercially available lubes, the water-soluble ones (KY, Astroglide) tend to get sticky. Better to develop your own taste. Go to a store that sells essential oils, get a base like almond oil or apricot kernel. Add a few drops of a good essential oil like sandlewood or lavender. That's always been my old stand-by (mostly to give massages to women, but then they turn around and use it on me). You will find it also makes an excellent makeup remover.

Set the stage for the guy, use incense, candles, romantic music (for a guy that means jazz or new age). Don't forget the foreplay, be sure to rub his c*ck while he still has his pants or at least his underwear on. Locate the spot just beneath the head that's called the frenulum and, with the heel of your hand, rub this spot in a circular motion until he gets nice and hard. Once you have him naked, start slowly with the oil, put a little bit at time on your hands, then work it into his c*ck as if you were giving a massage. You want to build up a "base" as the skin will absorb quite a bit, especially if you're in a dry climate.

Once you've done all that, you can use some of the other techniques people have listed here. My favorite is when my lady cuddles up next to me while she has me in her hand, looks into my eyes, kisses me, etc. It's also nice if you say some sweet words at this point. Say something like, "I remember the first time we did it, I thought you had such a nice c*ck, I loved the way the head gets all nice and round when you're hard." Stuff like that.

That's all I can think of right now.

The smaller the hand, the larger I look.