Okay ladies and Gentlemen;
I had the talk yesterday with my bf about the fisting. He total got upset and called it quits. I think he wanted to do this anyway but just didn't know how. He always wanted to use sex toys and take pictures of me. It was really becoming a turn off for me and i guess it started to show. Because of this my emotional attachment to him started to dim. Don't get me wrong i love sex but he was just over the top. What should i do? wait for him to come around or go and get my groove back with someone else that doesn't need all the unhealthy extras.

Move on, the two of you are on different pages sexually. You have to be true to yourself and your needs. In a good relationship it's give and take, with each pleasuring the other as part of their own pleasure. When it becomes all about one's needs without regard to other's needs or feelings, it won't work. Occasionally doing something you don't just totally get off on is one thing, having him pitch a fit over something that's very much an extra is quite another. He needs to find someone as freaky as he is and you need a lover who will enjoy pleasuring you.

thank you so much your advise sounds great!

I am also going to add that you really do need to be careful of "boyfriends" taking pictures of you.

Boyfriends come , boyfriends go and it appears that alot of guys will try to get "all" from a woman because they can... You have to consider what he may do with those pictures at a later date... Friends/Internet...

As for "un-healthy" , don't look at sex in that fashion. With the "right" partner, later down the track, whom you love and him back, you may want to experiement with all sorts of things... WC is right.. From your post, it is evident that what you need is love and emotions at this point, not some guy who is on a different page to where you are at.

CW

going to agree with WC.
although you have to do what you think is best.

Seriously, once guys start down that road they don't turn back. Do a search of all my previous posts, I pretty much am that guy (well not literally, but we can smell our own). People don't get more vanilla as they age.... As they feel their youth slip away and death get closer they're gonna get all the rocky road and rainbow sherbert on waffle cones they can.

Now that I'm on the ice-cream as sex euphamism wagon I have this idea that the hard-shell cone coating they offer at some stores may be the next big sex food.......... See what I mean?!? We can't help ourselves!!! LOL OMGWFTBBQ!

OMG, I am a freakin' genius. I could totally update the 1970's 'handkerchief code' (Go ahead and Google that if your young. It was how kinky people into NSA sex found-out about each other before craigslist. Simply by wearing a specific piece of cloth in your back pocket you could display your fetish for bondage, watersports, oral sex, fisting etc anytime you went to the bars. It was mostly among the gay leathermen, but every now and then in fetish clubs in major cities people will still wear them). Now instead of bars, people could be picking-up some D/L lovin' at the dairy queen.

Vanilla: I am a heterosexual who likes monogamy.
Chocolate: Likes black people
Strawberry: Likes redheads.
Rocky Road: S&M
Lemon sherbert: golden showers
Rainbow sherbert: Gay or Bi
Chocolate with peanut butter chunks: This is a family website... lets just say "salad tossing"
Banana Split: My spouse and I are swingers / Open marriage

so on and so forth.....