Hi. My bf and I havent had sex in almost a year in a half due to his depression and some emotional disconnect in our relationship.
Now I am understanding about it for now.
But, I can NOT imagine being married in a sexless relationship.
And,we are discussing marriage in the future (years away)...
how do i bring this up to him?
He said he would go to the Dr but he has no insurance.
How do I politely say Baby I cant imagine marrying you if Im never gonna have sex!
Seriously this has been bothering me...He's difficult to talk to.

First, I would quit talking about marriage...even if it's years away.

Second, I'd pull myself away from this relationship. Let him know that if he is going to survive, it's not going to be because you pulled him out of his problems, it's going to be because he does. Stop coddling him and let him go. Either he will pick himself up or he won't.

I think what may be happening is that he is waiting for you to pull him out of his misery. You have to be POSITIVE in that you don't enable (or continue to enable) this. In the famous words of Jenny (in the movie Forrest Gump)..."Run Forrest run!!!!"

Sorry to be so negative, but I think you deserve a reality check on this situation.
Cheers.

I hear ya.I do enable him and it's something I really trying to work on. I liked being needed and helping,but I like when a man can help himself too.

I am not sure if men look at us as "Mother's" when we like to be the "nurtering" type.

We hear all the time, pretty much what Fire(m) is saying, (not leave him), but put your foot down.

It's not easy if your soul is the type that likes to give, but unfortunately, unless you add 50% of that into, this is my life too, get your shirt together or seeya, they won't take it seriously firstly, and secondly, they will accept all that you do and that you will just "deal with it"...

You can't. I said I won't live in a loveless marriage and I am not.. I walked... You don't want to chose the wrong partner for life, nor "settle", you need to know that there is communication there, understanding, honesty and trust.

My ex had a back problem and depression, i pointed him in all the areas that he loved, motor bikes, etc, he started getting a "desire" for that and off he eventually went and followed those things and got out of depression.

Haha, stuff me, he forgot how guided him and what he needed to do for her, in appreciation, I mean marriage, I mean love.

He needs to see you, as well as himself.

Otherwise, you will lose and lose TIME which do you want to waste that? That's precious.

Excuses. He can read up on it, he can go on the internet, he can write all the things he loves and all the things he hates about life, and work on it.

Perhaps discuss that with him.

CW