Stryker814

My name is Justin and im 22. My girl friend (18) and I have been messing around for awhile now and she wants to have sex. She is a virgin and I am not. I do have a larger and avg sized penis. We have tried on about 6 different occasions and I can only get so far and I cant go any further. I have tried to use 1 finger to help but she says that also hurts. I dont mind waiting on her to be ready because I know its very special to her. I want her to look back on her first time and think about how special it was and to know that I care about her. I just want to know how to talk to her about it without coming across as that being all I want because its not. Can someone give me some advice on this subject or can someone tell me what I need to tell her. Any help would be greatly appriciated.

Fire(m)

Has she been checked out by a doctor? Just curious...but some girls need a little help in the hymen stretching or busting department by a doctor.
Cheers.

withered_rose

yeah fire is right, I had a difficult time with my first time, just be gentle and use a lot of lube too that will probably help. but talk to her and see if she is willing to go see a gyn that may help the two of you. best of luck
cheers

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Stryker814

I have used my finger once and she said she bled a little that day. I put my finger in her again the other night and she said it didnt hurt till I started to take it out. We have been dating 5 months and we are getting comfotable enough with eachother where we kinda talk dirty and when we are together she makes those little sexy comments. I know she wants to. She says she wants to bad but like I said everytime we try it hurts and we have to stop. Its kinda agrivating but thats because im not a virgin. I also stop and think about how special it is to her. I told her I want that night to be all about her. Slow and passionate. I want her to look back on it and know that I care about her alot. What do yall suggest I tell her/do? Thanks for yalls input. I need all the help I can get. This is my first time being with a virgin.

silvertae

Is she getting wet? Some women have a hard time getting wet even if they feel really turned on. She needs to be drinking enough water on a daily basis and if her natural wetness isn't enough, invest in some water-based, sugar-free lube.

As far as talking to her about it, just be honest and caring. Tell her what you said here, that you care about her and want the experience to be good. Encourage her to communicate any ideas she has or any feelings, but don't pressure her.

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Stryker814

Oh yea. She gets wet. I can tell she is turned on. She gets wetter than any other girl I have ever been with. She is so sexy and turns me on more than anyone I have ever been with so she makes me want it more than she knows. She is also younger but not to much and so much more my type. I just dont want it to come across to her that thats all I want. She knows I care for her deeply and I show her that I care for her deeply. I honestly feel like she is the one. Thats why I want to make sure I take all the right steps. Thanks everyone for their input.

zoolady

Maybe try different positions, Ask her how it feels and when she says it hurts, try to determine if its you (size or postition) or her (maybe just not ready yet or something that needs medical attention)

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Stryker814

Well I am pretty sure she is ready because I can get her really turned on to the point to where she says "JUSTIN I WANT IT" or something along those lines. The only position we have tried is missionary. Is there one that would be easier and more painless for her?

Angelic Babe

I'm not sure if this one would be more painless but you couldgive it a go anyway
" In this position the man lies on his side, with his knees bent while the woman lies on her side, with her back pressed against his front, her legs slightly parted, her hips tilted to one side, and her knees bent. They line up to align his penis with her vagina, and his penis is then guided into her vagina from the rear. It is also possible to use this position for anal sex rather than vaginal sex. This position allows for a great deal of physical intimacy, as the full-body contact allows both partners to cuddle and caress one another."

Enjoy

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Hystorm

This one is easy...

Have her on top, legs not up, but stretched out with yours.

She will love it.