Thread: ugh, head!

I think you should talk to him and ask him to take a break from the self-love.

Most men start masturbating as soon as they reach puberty, like 12 or 13, so by the time they are 18 or 19 they already have several years of practice. Believe it or not, it's an adjustment to get used to the stimulation of a real woman. It's like the penis needs to be "re-trained" to respond to a woman's mouth or vagina. It's not an automatic thing.

Ask him to stop for a few days, and to give you a fair chance.

Watch him while he masturbates to find out what he likes and you can duplicate it. Some men need very specific stimulation to orgasm.

This one is easy, peasy....

Its called: MASTERBATING TOO MUCH!!!!

Tell him to lay off for awhile and let you take over.
For at least a week.
If he can't, you may consider looking elsewhere...

Originally Posted by oyemicantolg

okayy, so this is the cituation.

my boyfriend masturbates alot! like when we have sex, he will have to masturbate to cum.
idk, if i just am bad in bed, or what? i hate it! really. so recently i decided to give him head, to maybe see if the same thing would happen, && YESS it did!

i can't seem to make him cum! i've had previous partners and they came, why can't i make him! i was thinking i should try different things to help explore. i'm scared to ask him, cause we really don't talk about previous partners! i need advice from people who have seen && done it all!

hellppppp!

How old are the 2 of you and are there any medications involved on his part?

I once had a bf like this years ago. No matter what I did, I couldn't make him have an orgasm. He told me over and over again that some things just didn't work on him, and it wasn't me. I still always thought that it was something about me...it's hard to get over that. I don't know what causes a man to have a problem in that area, but it's hard on the partner! Just try to remember that it's not you...you're doing everything right and at least you're trying! Maybe he should see a doctor about this.

Have you tried lots of foreplay before sex? Watching porn together? Talking dirty to him? Letting him watch you touch yourself? In fact, anything but letting him touch himself?