Pocky

I'm 21 years old and in my first sexual relationship. I have social anxiety disorder and was clear from the beginning that I needed to move very VERY slowly. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 1/2 years now and I have done a lot of growing. I feel much more comfortable with myself in all aspects of life and know that I am ready to have sex. Rather than turn this into another sort of broad "it's my first time" threads (I've read through quite a few of them before posting ;D) There are a few questions I'd like to ask for those willing to share their experiences
-Does the discomfort decrease while you're having sex or is it something that lessens after your first few times?
-What are some good positions to start with? I've been told women on top is good because you have more control but I was wondering if there were others that you would recommend
-Does it help to take a break every once in a while?
-Is it possible to have an orgasm on your first time or is it just too uncomfortable? I almost always orgasm when we get busy doing the things we currently do so I'm not that concerned really, just curious.

It probably seems like I'm over analyzing but it's much easier for me to relax when I don't have questions floating around in my head. We've always communicated very well so I'm not overly concerned about that bit. I realize the first time isn't necessarily amazing but I still want it to be a good experience for both of us (it's his first time too). Thanks for listening/reading! =)

crzyredhead21

To answer question #1 I wouldn't bet on the pain decreasing too much... but then again it depends on the person. persoanlly for me I was too drunk my first time to remember much so maybe I'm not the best one to answer any of your questions! LOL (My choice by the way) But I did wait a couple months before I had sex again and yes that did hurt but since the person I was with went very slow and was very considerate of my needs it wasn't too bad.

I must mention though that since it's his first time too you guys might not get too far into it as he will probably ejaculate early. If this happens make sure he takes care of you afterwards!

As far as the taking a break question, do you mean take a break while you guys are doing it or take a break as in have sex, then wait a couple days to have sex again?? Like I said you guys may not get too far into so I wouldn't worry too much about it!

Sorry if this wasn't as informative as you would like but their are a lot of variable that can come into play,. Just make sure he gets you very stimulated before he goes in and when you're ready, he goes in slow so as not to cause you too much discomfort. Good luck!!!!!!

ChelseaRenee

1) For me, it decreased during the first time, but was still there for probably the first 4-5x. Despite what you may have heard, its not so bad. For me, it was a slight pinch when my hymen broke, then a dull/slightly stinging ache which subsided to a dull ache.

2) I couldn't have done girl on top first. For me, it's a lot deeper penetration and it can still cause mild discomfort for the first few minutes. It's more intense in feeling, IMO. I'd say have him on top, and control how fast you want him to go (ie, pull him towards you when you're more comfy, thrust your hips)

3) Naw, you probably won't need a break. Lemme tell ya, it's not gunna be a marathon. :P

4) I'm sure its POSSIBLE, but not likely. You're probably going to be nervous, worried, etc to get that into it. It's more of a loving type pleasure/enjoyment than sexual pleasure.