Thread: Dream Help!

I am a very happily married woman who had some disturbing dreams last night, and I'd love some insight! I dreamt that I had an affair with my friends husband. I woke up thinking, "WOW!" and then immediately chided myself. I feel like I've mentally cheated on my husband!

My husband and I are trying for baby #2 and we're having some problems. I started my first round of clomid this past cycle, and now we're trying to get lots of baby making sex in and praying for the best. This has been hard on both of us, and it seems like we're resorting to the "baby sex" and not the loving, emotional sex we used to have. I'm thinking that maybe I'm dreaming of my friends husband now because of something I feel I'm lacking in my own sex life with my husband, due to our baby making difficulties.

Either way, I'm uncomfortable with the fact that I feel like I cheated on my husband. I know that obviously I didn't, but I still feel horrible! My main question is, should I fess up to my friend? We're really close and we can talk about absolutely anything, but I don't want to cause a problem. I feel like I should confess this to her, but then I'm not absolutely sure about that. Any insight on this?

I appreciate any help you ladies can give me! I've been fighting with this all morning and I'm at the end of my rope! Thanks so much!

Oh man.. id's be screwed if that was cheating! No, I think you're under a lot of stress right now what with trying as hard as you guys are to have Baby #2. I also would not tel your friend as this will only cause tension between you guys for something that was frankly just a dream. I think you and your husband may want to slow down and enjoy each other more before and during sex. It's hard when sex becomes kind of like a job. I think you might also find your body being more receptive to getting pregnant. (Not a medical fact but can't hurt anyway ) Don't worry about dreams. I have had those dreams before with peopel that I would never have sex with even i I was single. Then again, I really don't get very much sex anymore so that MIGHT have alittle bit to do with it! LOL
Bottom line, accept that this dream happened, and that it means nothing more than you need a little more intimacy. Otherwise you could end up hurtng a lot of people (friend, husband, friends husband) by telling them.

#1 DO NOT TELL YOUR FRIEND!!!!
#2 Don't feel bad Meg. You do have some stress and it's VERY NATURAL for you to occasionally have a sex dream about someone other than your husband. If it makes you feel better (and maybe it does or doesn't)...your husband has probably had sex dreams about being with your friend before!
#3 Just to point out how insignificant these dreams are, you could very easily have a sex dream about someone of the same sex as you. It could even be someone you don't like!!!!!!! All it has to be is someone who enters your mind at that time.

Don't worry about this! It's completely natural and doesn't mean a single thing!
Cheers.

Thanks for the advice! I've had sex dreams before, but way back before I was married. This one was so vivid that I woke up feeling like I'd done the deed without actually doing it. All day long I've been thinking that maybe I should tell my friend and get it off my chest, but I definitely see why I shouldn't. I don't want to cause any problems between us, and it's not like anything actually happened. I just felt really bad about it at first since I'm really close with her husband too, and I felt like I was keeping this big secret. You're right though...guaranteed my husband has the same kind of dreams about other people, so it's natural and it's not a problem. Thanks so much for making me feel better about this! Trying to have babies can make a woman go crazy sometimes!