We are in a new relationship, weve been together about 3 months and she has told me it feels incredible when we have sex, but im not feeling her orgasm. Its killing my confidence, she says she has never had a problem cumming, she has even said afterwars that she has blue clit (like blue balls for guys) so it isnt like shes faking it. She tells me straight up. I last as long as I need to, and stay rock hard the whole time. She tells me I have a big , but its average size. Also!!!!! She isnt into receiving oral, shes says she needs penetration. I dont know what Im doing wrong...

The only time I have ever had an orgasm through vaginal intercourse, I was on top. Is she interested in that position and have you two tried it?

she does like that position, but she says she has only orgasmed a few times (with other people) while on top, but when it did happen it was awesome. I finally broke down and talked to her about it last night, and she wasnt too happy about it. She said I was being whiny, and there arent always fireworks as soon as you start having sex with someone new, that it takes time with eachother. I hope that what she is saying is true, I just cant help but imagine her with other guys and having awesome orgasms all the time. Our sex life sucks! And its pushing me away, and like last night when I try to talk about it, it only makes things worse. Now it will probably be a week before we have sex again (and we live together!) I need some woman advice...

Try giving her oral to get her close to climax (almost like warming her up). Then when she is starting to feel it switch to intercourse. Or maybe use other types of foreplay to get her close. You could even bring toys into the mix. Also ask he her if getting a little rough turns her on. Who knows a little spanking or hair pulling might do the trick too.

might not be a physical thing but an emotional thing,

I'd recommend do a massive romantic night that just sweeps her off her feet and then have awsome wild sex, take all measures required to achieve this, like learning new sex positions and if you have problems maybe some medicines? like if you cum early i dunno.

But i know some girls who cannot orgasm from sex unless there very emotionally attached to the person there with.

-Daniel

Seriously, listen to her. The more you pressure her and whine about it the more frustrated she is likely to get with you. If she says she is enjoying things, even if she doesn't have an orgasm, believe her! Constantly questioning her and worrying her about it will not help at all. Let her know you want to make things good for both of you and that you are ready and willing to listen to any constructive criticism. And then LET IT BE.

Here for my own selfish reasons, but while I'm waiting, I'll give my two cents. Has she orgasmed regularly with all her other partners? How many has she had/ did they come from sex? Honestly, a large part of problems comes from the emotional/mental part, not the physical one. I've had sex with a few women who didn't orgasm, they got all embarrassed, and I just told them to relax and enjoy what we were doing. They started orgasming rather soon after that. Likewise, an ex who I hooked up with again for a while went from the multi-orgasmic female I remember to... not (and no, my technique and staying power are the same ). Don't push it. Let it be. If she's going to orgasm with you, the best way is to make her feel comfortable and relaxed, and to let her enjoy herself.

How long did you spend on foreplay before you finally entered her ... ?