My BF is 23 and has a very low desire for sex, yet he still manages to look at porn and masturbate on a regular basis. Any time I bring the situation up he gets extremely angry and tells me I have a sex addiction. I'm starting to feel that masturbation gives him more pleasure than being intimate with me and it is making me quit frustrated. I'm 28 yrs old and hitting my peak sexually and cannot settle for having sex only once a week. He often talks about being depressed and having no libido since he tried taking Prozac a while back (which he is no longer on). He says masturbating is like fast food, it is easier and being with me is like the gourmet meal. I just don't understand, if you could have a gourmet meal every day, then why wouldn't you? Any advice would be great.

A similar thing has happened with me in the past - I found out an ex was masturbating several times a day which left him unable to have sex at night. I used to try and get him first thing in the morning (often a good time for guys I notice!). One other thing that got him in the mood was if I washed his hair for him when he was in the bath - that seemed to work very well.

I think the thing with guys is they get so visually stimulated sometimes they can't wait to let out the tension as it were, whereas we can be a little more subtle.

I'm sure there are other things you can try and I hope it works out for you!

how many times a day does he masturbate do you know?

as far as I know it isn't daily. he claims it is only 2-3 times a week. basically any time he is home alone. the second i walk out the door it is in his hand

I think it is an immaturity thing for him. I get that feel from the food analgy. He is 23, and probably doesn't know what he wants. Maybe he is intimadated by you too. Plus who knows about the meds. But at 28 I would think that you have an idea what you want. This seems like it's not part of the plan. You should find someone who is more on your level.

He also mentions that he is past his peak and I'm just entering mine. You are also correct in saying he is immature and has no clue what he wants. He says he wants me but has a funny way of showing it sometimes. It is just so hard to end something w/o at least trying to work it out first.

A couple of questions. Do you guys live together? What do you guys do for livings? Just a little backround please.

The fact that he said he is past his prime at 23 tells me the guy is an absolute yutz. I am 35 and I feel that I have gotten better with age, and he is giving up at 23. Please!