SO, we have a thread about oral sex geared towards giving head, well, I would like some feed back on you ladies and receiving!

I would like to consider myself good in that region (what man wants to admit he is bad at something sexually oriented, honestly... lol), BUT, I do, I enjoy doing it, I love to see the woman (x now) go crazy because of what I am doing.

I like to take my hands and rub them all over the rest of her body while I am doing it, play with her breasts, rub thighs, squeeze the butt, ect..

I also have a tongue ring, does that help at all for women or is it painful because of the hard ball?

Also, something of key note, my X never would let me insert a finger into her to aid in this act, is that typical? Do you all not really like that or is she just a special case? I remember doing it before her, but that was LONG ago.

i love it when a man gives oral sex esp when he knows how to it and uses his hands to touch all over ur body i dont mind men using their fingers and surely the tounge ring will only add to the excitement

did ur x complain about the tounge ring or just the fingering i dont know how she wouldnt enjoy it as its just the same as having a penis inside
i certainly wouldnt complain and that ring would have me going in no time

She complained about both, which is why I do not use her as a baseline.

She was explorative during our dating and briefly after our marriage, the next 6 years was very non-exciting in the bedroom


THAT is why I ask questions like this here, ONCE I am ready to dive back into the pool, I just want generalized opinions, tips, ideas, tricks, and anything else to offer perspective.

So, anyone else with thoughts?

As a caveat to my above post,

since she complained about them, I would refrain from using those, or doing that action, I was not pushy with the things she said she did not enjoy, but the list just grew

I had an ex-girlfriend with a tongue piercing and it did honestly hurt, especially after she was down there for more than a few minutes. That's just me though, surely not everyone feels that way.

My current boyfriend is the first person I ever enjoyed oral with -- before it was just "yeah yeah, nice, now stick it in there and let's get this over with" but I think the difference between my former partners and my current is that my boyfriend LOVES to eat me and will do it for two, three hours at a time. He often sticks his fingers in me, which drives me nuts (in a good way) With other people, oral sex seemed like a "duty" so I didn't get much pleasure out of it (strange, because I've always loved to give) but with this partner, it's just plain phenomenal :^)

Oral sex, particularly when performed on a woman, is SUCH a particular and personal thing. I feel for guys who have to learn how to please different women. I think you really just need to take each woman separately, talk to her about what she likes, experiment, watch her reactions, and encourage her to speak up if she likes/dislikes something. With my current boyfriend I like really really light flicks of the tounge over the clit and am not a big fan of being fingered during it, but that kind of goes against what I have liked with other guys. So I'm not sure there are any good "generalized" tips other than to go into each new relationship with an open mind.