Thread: Your First Time

Hey there!

I was just curious what everyone thought of their first time having sex. Im still a virgin almost 18, I want to give it to the right person. But im curious/nervous lol

So...
-What was your ideal first time? Did you recieve it?
-Do you regret losing your virginity to the person you lost it to?
-What was it like? I heard it hurts but does it ever become enjoyable after the initial pain?
-Does the romance before and during make it better?
-Did the guy do anything after for you like send you flowers or something?

Thanks

I lost my virginity at a very young age and I really did regret it. For the longest time I never told anyone about it, I just very recently told my best friend about it. I did not have sex for about 5-6 years after my first time. The guy I am currently with makes me feel a lot better about sex. My first time with him was kind of like losing a virginity for a second time because I had waited so long in between the guys. With this guy my first time did hurt and I even bled a little but he was really gentle and the times since them have been really good. I think it is just a matter of making sure you are with the right person. Because my first time I was definitely not with the right person and I was way to young.

Yeah my first time was awful.. IMO, I was too young (16) and it wasn't with the right guy.. I felt like I was pressured into it... and I do regret it.. but I learned from it..

He was really small so I barely felt anything.. it was just felt like his fingers inside me LMAO!! so, not painful at all...

no flowers HAHA! yeah right....

It was really awkward bc he had lied to me and told me he was a virgin but he wasn't... but for some reason I stayed with him.. you would think he knew what he was doing... he sucked! real bad.... not just bc it was my first time.. I compared that first time to the times I had sex after that.... not good ha

I'm 25 and I just recently lost my virginity to my Boyfriend of about a year. The first time was kind of sore but he took it slow and heaps of foreplay so quite enjoyable all the same!I'd definately recommend waiting until its with someone you love...they are willing to take it at your pace and only when you're ready. My BF is more experienced than me sexually, so there have been times since we started having sex that I've felt a bit insecure about not knowing what to do etc. I don't like being ignorant! But he reassures me that he loves me as me and there's no rush to get it 100% perfect. If there's one thing I wish people had told me, its that technically, sex isn't as straightforward as everyone makes out it is...its taken lots of practice for us to even just get one position good...let alone trying other ones. The other day we were trying a different position and I ended up getting really frustrated because we just couldn't get it to work for us...we ended up flipping over and reverting back to what we know works! We just laughed about it, but I can't help feeling like it must be frustrating for him so have someone inexperienced. Anyway...that's the journey so far...honestly though- its better every time we have sex.

I waited until I was 21 and was with someone I cared about deeply. I couldn't have asked for a better experience. It wasn't his first time, and he was actually quite jealous at how nice it was. He actually turned down my drunken offer to do it the first time because he thought I should wait until I was completely sure I wanted to. Of course he gave in after some persistence (I only drank a little to work up the courage, though I knew I wanted to go through with it for awhile.) He actually wished he had such a good memory, his first time was pretty bleak.

Of course it hurt like heck and was physically completely unenjoyable.

For me it took several additional tries before I started to enjoy it. I would say somewhere between 7-10 times. I also bled slightly for about a day or so after, though it was very, very light. After that it became enjoyable but it still took a month or two before my sexual appetite caught up with me and I became the one instigating it/forcing myself on him.

One key way to know if you're choosing someone "right" is to ask him to wait. Honestly, if he pressures you or becomes impatient and annoyed with you, you don't want him to be your first. Choose someone who respects you and will wait until you're ready. That's what I did and it worked out perfectly. Oh and there were no morning-after flowers, but he might have bought me a coffee, haha.

I regret my first time. Make sure its right and with someone special. Because after you lose it you wake up feeling like a woman. Like you have really grown up, and when you lose it to someone you will always remember them so make sure its someone you want to remember.

this is all great to hear! Thanks

anyone else

I was 20 my first time, it was actually this year. It didn't hurt at all, the longer you wait the less painful it is I hear. It was funny actually. While going out with my boyfriend we would mess around a bit, but I told him that I wasn't willing to have sex. He said that it was cool and he respected me for it. A while later we broke up, but remained friends. I was over at his house at about 3am, he was making me some french toast and he asked me if i knew what a friend with benefits was. I said of course, then he asked if we could have partial benefits. Well, we wound up going all out. I can't say I regret it, we both enjoy it and I have never trusted any man more than him. He got me through some strange issues, and I know for a fact that he won't try to make me do something I don't want to do. Just make sure that your first is someone you trust. I can't say that I love my friend, but I think trust is just as good. Neither of us are romantics, in fact I don't think I could handle a romantic. Unless you count cuddling and watching a movie, or cooking meals at odd hours of the night.