Thread: For Men,will you allow your wife to enjoy sex with a girl?

Only if I was a part of what was going on. If she can touch, so can I. There are to be no unequal rules. If she isn't comfortable with your touching other people she cannot expect for you to be comfortable with her. I read stories where the woman wants another involved, but won't allow him to kiss her, touch her, etc. And I think that is basically a form of abuse.

If I wasn't aware........ I think I'm one of the less forgiving in this area, I won't just laugh about it and brag to my friends like many men will, if I wasn't a part of it I would indeed be quite angry. Women expect far too much leeway in this regard.

Think about how you would react if he asked to be 'involved' with anoter man. What is the difference between the two?

I wouldn't mind, but I'd much prefer if she told me. Of course I'd prefer even more if I was invited to join (I am a guy after all).

I don't view it very differently from a relationship with another man - but that doesn't bother me either. (though I would not want to join in that case)

Yes. My wife has been very open about her bisexuality since before I met her and I haven't (to the best of my knowledge) ever hampered her quest to continue sleeping with other women.

Originally Posted by anonymouswhitefemale

Only if I was a part of what was going on. If she can touch, so can I. There are to be no unequal rules. If she isn't comfortable with your touching other people she cannot expect for you to be comfortable with her. I read stories where the woman wants another involved, but won't allow him to kiss her, touch her, etc. And I think that is basically a form of abuse.

I do agree that whats good for the goose is good for the gander and all that. However, if I am involved with another and I don't want my partner involved whats wrong with that? Get your own. If it's a threesome then fine, I have no right to ask my partner to not touch but not every encounter outside a relationship is about a threesome or more.

Think about how you would react if he asked to be 'involved' with anoter man. What is the difference between the two? [/quote]
Exactly. If one asks to play outside the relationship one should be prepared to "allow" all to play. Again though, it doesn't necessarily mean that if a someone agrees to let their partner play they absolutely have to be part of it or no deal.

Uneeklyme, I guess I made it sound like everything has to be group activity.

What I meant more specifically, is that if the woman wants to sleep with another woman, she has no right to complain if her man sleeps with another woman, or man. There isn't a special rule that allows one sided playing around for bi women. So she needs to think about if she can handle that, if she can, fine, if she can't then she either needs to remain faithful or end the relationship.

Hey everyone, there are no "rules." Each couple has to work out what they are comfortable with. just becuase I fell that XXXX is OK, that does not make it OK (nor bad) for someone else.

Set your own rules together. To with what others think. As long as the two of you are comfortable with it, that is all that counts.