Thread: straight but lately having thought about having sex with a woman

I'm straight, I've had a boyfriend for almost 2 years and I'm pregnant with his child. He is a good guy and all but latley I've been havin dreams and urges to have sex with a female. I feel like my body needs it in order for me to stop thinking and dreaming about it. I sometimes can't concentrate when I work because I think about it so much. When I do think about it I turn to him and I have sex with him thinking my thoughts and urges would go away but they just get worst. And I think if I do have sex with a girl he would consider it cheating and I don't want to loose him! I need help and advice!

I'd ask him about it first. He might like the idea.

Idk if I want too! I don't want him trying to get involved

3some?

And I've been having these dreams with a girl and it happends to be on of my good friends she is bi sexual she has experience with girls! Idk if I should tel her how I feel! I'm real confused! Am I bi sexual?

I wouldn't worry about labels.

You could ask her and your BF for a 3-some. Might be a lot of fun, but can get very emotionally complex.

Originally Posted by lilmsladi20

I don't want him trying to get involved

That's a problem.

You want to cheat but won't allow him?

Boo.

Originally Posted by lilmsladi20

And I've been having these dreams with a girl and it happends to be on of my good friends she is bi sexual she has experience with girls! Idk if I should tel her how I feel! I'm real confused! Am I bi sexual?

In general friends and co-workers make for terrible sex partners.

Originally Posted by lilmsladi20

Idk if I want too! I don't want him trying to get involved

Just because you openly discuss what your feeling and thinking with him does not necessarily mean he has to be involved in what might transpire. Who knows, he might at some point in time agree to you getting all hot and wet with a girl and only request that you tell him stories.

I find that the more open and honest I am with what I am thinking and feeling with my partner the more he trusts. He trusts that even though I may have certain thoughts and feelings I would never act on them unless we have discussed it and he/we are ok with it. He trusts that if he is uncomfortable with anything nothing will proceed. He gets a better picture of who and what I am when I tell him how I am feeling and thinking. He trusts that I will talk with him about anything even if its not all roses and puppies for our relationship.

You need to be honest with your BF. You're already cheating in your mind.

It's possible your man will understand the difference between being loyal and being faithful. You need to be loyal to him, out of respect for the child you are carrying, if nothing else. Maybe being pregnant is throwing your hormones out of whack.

Speaking as a guy, I can tell you sex with women is the best. Couldn't imagine life without it. You really haven't lived until you've made a woman orgasm with just your lips and tongue. This may seem random, but does your BF do oral on you? It's a different form of surrender then just having him put his thing in you. Maybe that's what you're curious about.

It sounds like you want to have more experiences with other partners before you settle into the routine of family life. I really hope you talk to your BF about this, as the father of your child, you owe him that much.

Good luck.