Call-Boy

I recently started dating an amazing girl with a beautiful heart full of kindness and love. She and I want to take the next step, neither of us is a virgin, and to be honest I am far more experienced than she is, for good reason.

This is where I need help and advice. This girl is rather petite and sensitive. She's so sensitive in fact that and sort of clitoral stimulation, or even contact is unpleasant or even painful for her, she can pleasure herself by rubbing her legs together like a cricket but even her own fingers are not deft enough to venture safely through that folding place.

As if that weren't consternating enough, I'm also much to big for her... We have managed partial penetration once, but even when not moving she's is in pain, no stroking or wiggling, it's as if she cannot dilate... I am not particularly well endowed, measuring in at six and a half inches... I know that she should be able to adjust through masturbation, or propping her bottom on pillows and spreading her legs to loosen those muscles, but even a finger is painful. I don't know if this make a difference, but using the "come here beckoning motion brings her to the virge of g-spot orgasm but any "in out" motion causes her distress.

Lubrication is not and issue, and there is no std.

Anyone who can give me advice and help us move to the next step please do so.

ans no I don't push her, she's the one who wants to try, she's the one who wants to get past this. I did tell her we didn't have to but I know she really wants to be beyond this barrier.

Harper

has she had this problem with anyone else before you? That's rather perplexing, especially if she is in-fact 'wet'. I have no idea at all because, like you said, your size isn't too big for her. I don't think that's the issue. If you're the first person that she's found painful, i'm pretty well stumped. I don't think its an std or anything like you said, but could it be some other sort of medical prob? Has she told her doctor about this issue?

ExperiencedyetPerplexed

I had an ex-girlfriend who encountered a guy she had problems with... of course, the guy was supposedly 4 or 5 times more a man than most . He was a virgin when they got together, because he had a girlfriend, but when he couldn't get it in, she just eviscerated his ego. They got it eventually... but apparently they ended up into multiple hour foreplay anyway... Umm... have her practice with a dildo? And... hmm... oversensitive clit... go with doggy style, and modified positions to avoid the clit. I know they make a topical cream to desensitize guys, see if it works for women too? Sorry I can't help more than I have. I will return if I think of anything else.

Second thought: has she been the victim of sexual violence? If you don't know 100%, then don't assume anything. If so, then this might require professional help.

silvertae

Have her speak to a doctor about the possibility of vaginismus or vulvodynia.

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