i am 16 years old and i am in a good relationship with a lad who i have been with for about a year. we both want to have sex but i am affraid about how much it hurts.

I am also not very confident about my body. He has never seen me with no clothes on and i am affraid of scaring him off. What can i do?

Please help me !

Don't be afraid, invest in a good lubricant and everything will be fine and don't be afraid to let your partner know when it hurts too much, everything will be fine.wish you the best of luck.
cheers

thank you for ur suggestions

You've been with him for about a year, I'm sure he wont care what you look like with your clothes off It usually the things us girls worry about that they dont notice!

Like...stretch marks. the inside of my thighs are riddled with them! the back of my knees too, it wasn't until one day I made a comment about them he went 'What are stretch marks? :S'


And Ive got cellulite on my bum, he thinks its the cutest thing he's ever seen...he's even named his favorite dimple...yeah,..i know! haha


but honestly, if you make a big deal out of it then so will he and that's when your self confidence hits rock bottom! If you just get on with being naked it'll just come as a natural thing

(self experience)


As long as your relaxed when it comes to sex you'll be fine, make sure he stops if you need him to, take it slow, it'll hurt a bit (or maybe not at all) and feel a little uncomfortable at first but...thats the same as wearing in a new pair of shoes

Trust me, us guys are so into the sex, the act, the person that the body image never even enters our heads! That only happens if you are wearing Lingerie that does not look good on you or something.

Enjoy.

I had my first time not too long ago (year and a half) and i had no pressure on me to have sex, so i never really thought about it in terms of, "i'm gonna have to do it, and it'll probably hurt". He never pushed it, and i trusted him when we were fooling around to not get carried away. He would often finger me (somtimes with 2 fingers) and would sometimes slightly pentrate with his penis, but not all the way, so it couldn't really be considered sex. It was all very well done by him, becuase it got me used to the situation and comfortable, although i don't think he really planned it all, he was just going by what he could do with me at my comfort level. So, i think the fingering helped, and the fact that when he did penetrate, but not all the way,it got me used to it "down there", so when we did actually have sex, i didn't feel much of anything. Most of it is just rubbing and friction, so make sure you have lube or lotion or something. Hope this helped.