Whats up everyone. I joined this site mostly for advice from women. Here is my situation.. (Warning could be long)
Details
I am 25 she is 24
We have been together for 1 year but have been interested in each other a little before we became "Official"
The Good
We love each other and are serious about getting married and moving in together.
We cuddle at night, have a great relationship, always together, the family loves me, and really have no real problems except we are completely different from one another but we both really don't mind.
She tells me how much she loves me, sends me text messages saying how much she loves me and hopes I have good day and stuff like that.
The Problem
When we first started going out we had sex for the first time and she loved it. She said word for word "I'm always going to want you now"
I was like "......Sweet".
We used to have sex quite a bit but now... it has diminished tremendously.
She will not give me oral ( The only time she has is when she is drunk) which was about like 2 times. I go down on here EVERYTIME before we have sex because it's the only thing that turns her on and she seems to really like it.
She makes NO attempt to have sex me now.
This is what really pisses me off... She gives EVERY single excuse on why she doesn't want to... every single excuse you say? Yep here are some of the best ones
1. Too tired
2. Stomach hurts
3. Headache
4. Dog's in the room(No joke)
5. We don't go out and do enough things(Meaning nightlife or whatever)Which is COMPLETE
6. On here period (For a full week????)
7. Not in the mood
8. Passes out when drunk (This is true) She is not an alcoholic though
9. It hurts too much(It should hurt if you only have sex once every 3 weeks IMO)
10. (Reason for no oral)- Because I will come to quick
11. I'm not satisfied enough if we do because later on I will try to again
12. She says it might be caused by a possible vaginal infection
13. My friend told me she was a before we met and she doesn't want me think that(We came to this conclusion once, but I bet my it's not the problem)
14. She doesn't know whats wrong so she is going to go to the doctor
15. Her friends say she doesn't want to with me because she loves so much that she doesn't need it
16. She says it has NOTHING to do with not being attracted to me
17. She is not comfortable with her body
So yeah...... This would be no problem to me if she was like this with sex BEFORE we met, but she was far from it.
Important Facts
When we first met, she told me "She thinks about sex all the time like a guy"
She has only been in 2 Relationships before me.
She claims she had sex with her last boyfriend all the time because she thought it would get him to love her but she felt that he just used her for sex.
She sometimes acts like a when she is drunk. This is strange because she is a complete 360 from this without alcohol.
She hates one of my friends for telling me that she hooked up(Gave head) with one of our friends before we met. She claims she was not attracted to him...(Go figure.. she was drunk)
She had sex with some dude she just met that day on (new years). Before we were together
I'm am so F'n confused right now... She is very loyal, has never cheated, even though with all the above stuff she is far far far from a . I take her out to dinner, buy her things, she takes me out to dinner also, we do literally everything together. We basically live together but unofficialy.
Our relationship is picture perfect except for this little detour going on right now.
It has been going on for about 4 months now.. so I'm at the point where I am ready to let her go because I absolutely cannot marry into something like this if it should continue.
I have been in many many relationships and have been cheated on 95% of the time. I love this girl to death and would do anything for her. I really don't believe she is cheating...but before 2 of my x girlfriends stopped having sex with me before they cheated on me.
Thank you for taking the time to read all of this. I gave every important detail I can think of.. any help or advice at all would be greatly appreciated because I don't want to make the mistake of releasing the best thing that came into my life. Thanks-
Alex




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