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Originally Posted by Tarzan31
You said that she told you she had sex all the time with her ex so that he would love her...maybe she is testing you. You know, to see if you will love her without sex. It sounds like she is very insecure and has trust issues with men. This could be her way of proving that all men are dogs and leave at the first sign of trouble. If you really love her, talk to her about the lack of sex, be patient, and make it your job to prove her wrong.
P.S. For the record: I don't like having sex with the dog in the room either. He likes to stick his nose in inappropriate places.
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Wow... you are dead on. She told me a while back that she "Held out on sex from me for a while" to see what I would do. She admitted that she was wrong for it a little later. I promised to her that sex was not all I cared about(It isn't) I honestly believe that for a girl to have sex with a guy is huge huge decision. It is up to women on when sex happens basically.
Your right again.. She is insecure right now. She thinks she is too fat(Weighs 105 haha) and upset with her build right now. She has no reason not to trust me. She is the only girl that I have met that does NOT get jealous. If she does, then she is good at concealing it. I have been patient for as long as I can.
Hahah the dog thing is very true. I was talking about just when the dog is anywhere in the room laying down or something.
Thank you so much on the response. Really appreciate it
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Originally Posted by bimbamboodle
I think she has serious self-esteem issues and is unsatisfied with you in a way she doesn't want to admit to you, which is a trust issue. Those two things can just totally mess up a girls libido. You need to try to build her trust in you and improve communication. I think she needs to sort things out in her head before she'll truly enjoy sex.
Yes, periods do often last a week.
You said that it would be different if the relationship started out with less sex. All relationships start out with more sex than they end with. I just want you to know that her behavior is nearly textbook for someone with a history of sexual abuse, and if that's the case, you need to get her to communicate about that more.
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As I said above, you are right also. She has self-estem issues. I don't get it a lot of guys always hit on her. She doesn't and shouldn't have no reason not to trust me. We actually had a very very long conversation about communication. I also agree that relationships start out with more sex than they end with. She hasn't been sexually abused though. I guess you can call being used for sex abuse though. Thank you so much for the reply.
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Originally Posted by WildChild
Deep breath time. I'm confused, she's had two relationships before you, was that the guy she gave the bj to and the one on new years? What counts and what doesn't? Doing things drunk that you won't do sober is just an excuse, it's BS. Sounds like she comes on like gangbusters at first and then backs off when you are 'hooked' that what she's admitted to doing in a previous relationship.
Do you think she really cums during sex?
Are you as good as you think you are? Would she tell you? Maybe you are doing what really turned on some other woman but it doesn't quite work for her and she's nervous to say so?
Over and over we have people start with a slice of the story and then gradually actually get to the nitty gritty. Is there more? How much time do you spend in foreplay? Do you get upset over all this at her? Can you tease her and arouse her until she is begging for it?
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OK.. The guy she gave the bj to was one of my friends. They did not have any relationship. This happened a long long time before we started dating. The thing that disturbs me is that she said she was not attracted to him(Doesn't make any sense to me) and that "He kept trying to get with me and I kept rejecting him" "I finally broke after so many times and thats when it happened" She was drunk of course.
The guy on new years was just some tool that she met on a trip that night and ended up having sex with. That was the end of that.
I completely agree the "drunk" excuse is complete .
I know she cums during sex. The only time she gets crazy with me in sex is after she has been drinking.
I always start out with foreplay. Touching, kissing, and going down on her until she about to cum and then stopping. Then I repeat for a couple more times.
The only time I got upset is when she gave me all those excuses I listed because I think it is way too many.
I want her to initiate the contact. I have been rejected alot lately so I quit trying to have sex. I want her to beg for it but it hasn't seemed to work so maybe I will have to act uninterested for a while.
Thank you all for the replies. I will keep you all updated. Going out tonight so I hope she doesn't want it when she gets drunk tonight. Usually she just passes out and thats another excuse. Thank you guys