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    I have probably waited way to long to ask this question, but here goes:

    When my wife and I have sex, she floods the bed during her orgasm. I feel warm liquid shooting out and covering my pelvic area and the bed. I can usually get this to happen rather quickly with extremely shallow thrusts that just barely penetrate her. To this day I do not know what is really going on. Is she urinating on me?

    This leaves the bed saturated and thus a complete change of bedding is necessary. In the past, I have avoid sex knowing that hours of laundry would follow as well as having to relocate to the guest bedroom after. It takes 3 loads of laundry to wash and dry a king set of bedding as well has half a day to do it. Then there is the mandatory shower that is to follow to clean ourselves after sex.

    Is this normal? If you know me from my one other post, you would know that my wife and I are have a difficult time now and only have sex every couple months. I just don't believe that other health couples go through this process every time they have sex.

    We have tried using towels under us, but the flow is just to great.

    We are both compulsive clean freaks as well. Maybe that is why I m having troubles dealing with this cleaning process and allowing it to affect our love life.

    Unfortunately, we have never spoken of this.

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    I don't really understand how you can be married to someone and NOT have a conversation about such an obvious thing occurring in the bed...but whatever.

    She's ejaculating. Women can do it too, and it's just like what you describe. It's not urine, but it does exit through the urethra. Just google "female ejaculation" and you'll get tons of info. Some guys think it's the hottest thing ever. Some hate it. If she's not able to control it then you just need to find ways to deal with it. I think most couples who experience this invest in a plastic sheet for the bed in order to avoid it soaking into the mattress. If you do a google search for "incontinence sheet" it seems to bring up some viable results. Maybe you can put that down overtop your normal sheet so when you're finished with sex you only have to remove that for cleaning and don't have to do the laundry as much.
    Well some people say that you shouldn't tempt fate, and for them I can not disagree. But I never learned nothing from playing it safe; I say fate should not tempt me. I take my chances.

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    This usually happens with a G spot orgasm. There are posters on here who have been trying everything possible to have one, it's the subject of imnumerable magazine articles. You two have that going on and don't know what it is! Get some of those books, start doing some research, educate yourselves. There are men who would half kill themselves for a woman who cums like that. Get yourselves some nice thick towels to put down on the bed before you go to it.

    Is squimishness about this why you two aren't having sex? Have you tried different postions? Get educated and see if you can learn to love this about her, it is unusual and makes her very special.

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    well there is one way to prevent this...have sex in the shower, bath or jacuzzi

    Problem solved...well if shes willing to....or you can invest in some custom made rubber sheets AND only use thin blankets that are easy to wash....prevent it....
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    i would have to agree with you that your "clean freak" behavior could be holding you back from enjoying sex more often. If in the back of your minds your thinking OMG after this we must shower, do laundry, and wait.......

    I would suggest getting a couple more sheet sets so you can whip them off put new ones on the bed or have sex in the guest room so you can snuggle in your own bed. Worry about the laundry later and bond with one another.

    Of course don't have sex in the guest room if you are having guests over lol

    Wildchild is right most men would be screaming at the top of their lungs... my wife orgasims so hard there's a flood!!! Some couples can't cum at all......

    i wish you all the best finding each other, loving each other and reconnecting.

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    I WISH I had this problem. We've tried but... no luck. However from what I've read people who are able to do this simply lay down some towels before hand. From everything I've read it brings female orgasm to a new level so tell her I envy her!

    And as to being clean or neat freaks this is not "pee" its female ejaculate. Unless you think male ejaculations are neat and clean???
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    To the point:-

    Unfortunately, we have never spoken of this.
    Communication is the key to a successful relationship, without it you don't have a good one.

    Is this normal?
    It is strange, in your situation... You say you don't have sex that often with your wife, excuse me, sorry and that you masterbate and watch porn, she doesn't mind the masterbation but doesn't like the porn, you don't think she masterbates?

    Not in this thread but another one you wrote, I am sure, I read this.

    None of this makes sense to me... ?

    Let's call it this way.

    For a woman to let herself go to that extent and be able to ejaculate, from G-Spot "extreme shallow thrusts", she must also trust her partner that he accepts her, loves, her makes her feel beautiful and therefore it is more than ok to let go, it is "one", or have experimented on her own, finding this new way of sexual orgasm... on her own cause her relationship is not on that level and she wants to know her capabilities, or she is that way, sensual, sexual.

    I don't understand?

    No it is not peeing, google and read, female ejaculation but please more so, you don't know your wife, and shoot me but you don't..

    Or, else you are wanting information? Because, she can't do that unless she is sexual, sensual, knowing of her body and therefore experimenting, experimented, dying for sensuality of being a Woman, or he takes her there, in love.

    Happy to add if you want more explanation without personal details naturally.

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    Silvertae's advice is very good. Phoebee is right too. It is NOT pee.

    They sell sheets that are rubber-backed, like for a baby bed, but for adult sized beds. they are meant for adults that are incontinent.

    Towels also help. Many couples WISH they were in your situation.

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    Welcome back owlhunter.


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    I find this to be an odd question since the poster has said he views porn. I would think he would be familiar with this subject since there are clips that are centered around this subject.

    Next time you are viewing look up this particular genre and you will see that it is not abnormal.

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