just to fill you in a little bit. im 17 and well my boyfriend
is quite a bit older. and ever since i can remember ive
always had trouble maturbating. ive never really enjoyed it...
not alone anyway.


when i masturbate i find it very hard to stimulate myself.
[that is unless i use a toy] and in most cases that still
doesnt really work. i pay close attention to my clit but still
no sudden pleasure. HOWEVER when im with my man
im instantly turned on by anything. and i do mean anything.
why is this?
and how can i have more pleasure with masturbation
and thus for stimulate myself.

Do you have any fantasies while you are self pleasuring? Most people need to visualize some sort of sexual situatiuon. The other option is a tantric approach of emptying your mind and completely connecting into the feeling. I can do this part of the time but have to be in the right mental state.

I never have this problem, honestly.

But I agree with WildChild. I visualize and play out fantasies in my head when I masturbate. Also, try out different toys. From what it sounded like you had a little bit better luck with a vibrator? I like one called Mr. Hal. It vibrates, has a rabbit and the tip swivels... so much fun haha. Reading erotica does it for me as well. I'm not much on porn but if I read something and visualize it myself it goes much further Good luck! No girl should be stuck masturbation-less...

How do you feel about masturbation ?

Do is make you feel dirty or do you see it as being weird or unhealthy ?

Did your mother ever tell you not to play with yourself ?

thanks everyone for replying. i greatly
appreciate it. i feel perfectly fine about
masturbation i just cant seem to feel
hardly anything sexual about it. i dont
feel at all that its awkward or nasty. ill
give your suggestions a try.

thanks again.

lay in the bathtub with your legs resting on sides and let the warm water hit your spot and think of thoughts that arouse you. rub your spot to make it more joyfull while the water is runnig. rub yourself, do what you have to do to make yourself feel good.
the main thing is to relax and what is it that makes you wet. all women are different when it come to self masterbuting. if talking to your man on the phone does this then do it.