I have tried everything to get pleasure out of penetration. I bought some dildos and have yet to feel the pleasure that everyone talks about. I don't feel the gratification of having a penis sliding in and out of my vagina

I cannot stand women who enjoy sex. I don't like them, because I envy them so much. Sometimes I get so angry that I just burst nto tears and feel like destroying the whole house.

It's simply not fair that sex feels so good to all these women yet I get the short end of the stick and dont' feel anything.

I hate the remarks about how they feel sorry for women who don't enjoy penetratin and can't orgasm from it. When I hear that remark it makes me so angry that i want to slap the woman who says it.

Now, I dont' know if a man will ever want me or even stay with me. Men like penetration, and I don't know if they will even tolerate a 'broken' woman such as myself.

I don't know what to do about this. I get so frustrated that I have to work so hard at something that should come naturally. I shouldn't even have to go through all of this, I should enjoy it and be able to focus on other things in life.

I don't know a great deal, but after reading alot of things on this site and others, is t possible that you're focusing too much on the negative side of your sexual pleasures? Can you feel any pleasure from masturbating or from foreplay with a guy??? Like I said, I don't know a great deal, but I do know that if you go into it thinking 'omg this never works' or you think about it so intensely as being a negative thing, you probably won't ever solve your problem.

Have you tried asking a gp? Can anyone else help me out here?

Well said Sophie..

I think guys it depends on the depth of your feelings for your men.

Trying to ................. to please him..............but you don't have total butterflys for him, he is expecting, you are trying to please, it won't happen.,

Feelings just like feeling love for someone in your family, it's no different, you have to feel..

And, you have to have trust from him, him saying "it's ok" I understand.

Do either of you have this?


CW

I definitely have strong feelings for him and i trust him more than anything. But I have noticed how strongly your mood can effect things. I've learnt that you have to not just want it...but really want him and everything about him as well. Not having any other thoughts in your head but him. I think that's how it is supposed to be and when I feel that way it makes things so much easier and more enjoyable. Since I've started to relax a lot more, things have improved.
Are you completely relaxed poster? Do you love your bf? I think CW is right in saying we need to focus on how we feel about them...

Can I ask you what you mean by "broken" ?

Yes, I feel pleasure from masterbating. I enjoy it a lot, I do it quite often ::blushing::

I only get pleasure out of clitoral stimulation which feels excellent, I even have a vibrator that massages my clitoris and I orgasm quite easily. A bit too easy.

But with penetration, it fills like nothing. Just fullness. I don't feel gratification of having my walls stimulated as some women say. I just know that something is in there. Now, some suggest & say add clitoral stimulation while being penetrated but I don't see the point if the clitoral stimulation is all I'm feeling.

Sophie, I'm not in a relationship now. But when I was with my boyfriend, I did not love him at all honestly. I cared about him, but just liked the fact that he made me feel good about myself and gave me companionship. I know a lot of women can enjoy just the physical act of sex without being in love and was wondering why can't I be one of them?

I mostly experiment with sex toys (dildos) and I have been working with them without any success.

I feel like my body is not working or responding the way it should. Typically, most women have enough nerves in their vagina where penetration is pleasureable and I don't. I've never had a doctor tell me that I don't have enough nerves but judging from not feeling any pleasure it's safe for me to say I don't.

Been there, felt that frustration. Had a fiancé who made me feel absolutely defective (obviously, he's an EX-fiancé now.) Didn't think I would ever have good sex. Sex for me was incredibly painful, not just lacking in feeling, though because of an abusive situation I was able to turn my brain off of sex and not feel anything.
Until I met my current boyfriend with whom I clicked immediately. He took time with me, made me feel worth the time he was taking and made me feel that even though I had a difficult time with sex, it was okay. And the results were, as they say, explosive
Your "cure" may not be another person. It may be in your own brain. You have to relax and be receptive to the possibility of pleasure. I know how frustrating it is to not feel anything or to feel pain, but you can't let it take control of you. Maybe you have a problem with the amount of nerves in your vagina, but until a doctor tells you so, you shouldn