Need help. Questions on Penis Size and Sex Before Marriage

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 02-08-2009 04:26 AM

Originally Posted by jazz12

i use to fill size did'nt matter but after being with my wife an dealing with her crazy comments im kind of filling kind of different. i mean she is not in the mood to me but she wedge a dildo so far and cum so quickly to the point of
she looks at me are you still their. its so embarassing that she doesnt believe how i feel. i wish it did not matter but it does. im a small dude an she treats me like it. she tells me i can not take all that dildo, turn my back and she shoving the toy all the way inside her.

Jazz, the more I read of what you write, the more I think:-

1. If you were a female, all other females, would be saying to you, that "he" is abusive, verbally torments you, makes you in-secure when you weren't treats you poorly leave.

You are a male, and frankly I am saying it.

It didn't matter before, (size) now she makes you feel small.

She disrespects you by knowingly making statements about the dildo, then you say behind your back, but you have to see for yourself, I think in another post you said she did it in front of you, then wanted you to do your bit but like hurry up... Disrespecting you..

And, then she makes racist slurs that are meant to make you feel like nothing "again"...

Why do you want to stay with this women? Seriously? You were doing much better before you met her and married her and was content hey..

CW

**jazz12** · 02-08-2009 04:43 AM

i have been very shitty to her because of it in the past thats why today we are so apart. I'm finally getting over the past but it seems once i'm their here qwe go again. she tells me one time you can tell how big a guy is by his feet, she does'nt even sound like an adult. i use to love to please her but know she is not even worth hours spent. we all make mistakes, we all need to forgive and move on. Ive done some bad i mean real bad. We are know end to the road and im like this woman needs to control herself. women say use between the ears. I refuse to be known as a eater ,but licker great toy user good with the touch an oh yeah he can screw. I sure can after so many hrs of you orgasmning off each title i just typed. i mean if i were 10 would it matter if i just knew howe to stick it in. most women like to climb tall trees im not mad im like just be real.
women make men feel insecure about their penis because they talk about it so much. women laugh at little dicks even the good ones. i have been with a girl with a flat chest and a flat i have never onced laughed because i know how it feels.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 02-08-2009 05:12 AM

Well, this is a good place to vent, and the theader never returned to answer any of this, well so far, so I don't think he would mind that I am replying to you, or we will reply to you..

I don't know how old you are, but I can assure you "not" all women think like that at all and we really don't care about size, at some point in time, rather intimacy and how we both feel together, as a couple in every way....

So, your wife does sound very childish indeed... And, you do seem to have good understanding that you can't let it affect you... It is her, not you...

Remember that.

CW

**jazz12** · 02-08-2009 05:27 AM

well thank you. you have been much help wit this issu of mind. I will do my best tro view women diffferently. I read a couple of other treads some from you,it is good to know you are not all talk. i like what you said no neeed to measure no need to even discuss the size if it gets hard make you feel good who care how big it is. I cant loose what i have. I dont care if my is small i wish i coud get and honest reply from someone about my penis size cause my wife wont give me and answer.i come with a curve not like a hook though. maybe i need a smaller woman

**Little** · 02-08-2009 07:48 AM

Jazz, I've got to say that your wife is a jerk and that you shouldn't use her as a comparison point for all women.
She calls you stupid, leaves you out of your own sex life, uses racial slurs, does the list go on? Maybe she gets off on cuckolding you; who knows? But the more of her behavior you describe, the more I think I would sign divorce papers in a HURRY.
I would straight up say NO to a penis that's too big. Like men have different penis sizes, women have different sized vaginas. Yes, they can stretch, but everyone has a breaking point. The OP hasn't been back since eary December, but for the sake of posterity, all the sizes he listed sound fine, including his height.

**Steph33** · 02-09-2009 11:58 PM

I think a mutual fit in size is far better. I've dated a couple men who who were huge and sex wasn't great at all. They generally hurt if to big during intercourse. Expecting me to swallow them whole was a bit much when they hit the gag reflex. Both also eventually displayed a crude habit of praising themselves for their size in situations or places where it didn't go over with me at all. I dumped both of them. Rather funny looking back that they seemed astonished anyone wouldn't beg to keep a "stud" such as them. And contrary to "legend", a big penis doesn't mean a larger amount of sperm when they cum than a normal sized man. Some huge men are all show and no "go" in that department. There is really nothing to envy or be uncomfortable about being average.

My current BF and I live together. He's what you called average, about 5.5 and proportionate in girth. I'm 5' 7" and he's 5' 11 1/2". He fits me like a glove and feels perfect. 99% of the time when seeking an orgasm from just him inside me I have success. He also has a very pretty penis, and most women would probably agree they've seen at least 1 that was less than stunning. Even if a woman wants and can take the size of a huge penis, those built like a horse seem to look odd or strange as far as proportions as well as other less than pleasant image traits (friends who've been there agree with me on this).

Remember the girl you're eventually with will be playing with what you have, placing you in her mouth, looking at it during hand stimulation, and have to deal with having all of you being inside her. A normal, average, nice one I think many women would agree is better than a huge circus display. And how well you use it matters more than size. Your heart, kindness, caring, and want for her is going to do a lot more for her (emotionally and physically) than your size. Don't be surprised if she gives your manhood a cute personal pet name of its own

I have for my guy's and love watching him blush when I say it.

**Richard S** · 02-10-2009 01:56 AM

A few random thoughts:

- There is very little that anyone could have told me at 18 that would have made the slightest bit of difference.

- Above all else, girls need a guy to basically just be a regular guy. What I mean is that there is a process, a ritual that women need in order for their internal process to work. If you are too focused on yourself, the process never gets a chance to work. It has nothing to do with her being a good or bad person, it's the nature of the female. The Yin needs the Yang.

- This girl you are with seems very nice. Make the most of whatever time you get with her.

- The thing you lack are the life experiences that will take you from being a boy to being a man. And being a man has nothing to do with the size of your penis.

- All this stuff you think is real, appearances, social behavior, group dynamics, whether a girl seems to like you or not, it is all an illusion, it is smoke and mirrors. It has exactly as much reality as you give it.

- You say, "Love is only truly felt by two more experienced individuals." Please hear this: You know nothing of love until you let go of whatever you think you know about it. Seriously. Don't dishonor that word by using it in such a small way. Love is the awareness that you only get to keep what you give away. Ponder that for a few minutes.

- Courage is action in the face of fear. Nothing said here will prepare you for what it's like to actually make love.

- Don't forget to use protection, at least until she can get on the pill and you can go in unprotected. You won't really understand the role penis size plays in the act of making love until you've done it unprotected a few times. The vagina changes in response to the penis. Nature is quite an interesting and curious thing, once you remove your head from the realm of the abstract.

- If you don't see yourself being married to this young lady, don't lie to her. If the truth is that you don't really know what you want at all, then tell her that. Give her the space to choose to be with you even though neither of you knows what the future holds.

- Please try to be a little less horribly analytical and enjoy the gift that is your youth.

- Live your life. True awareness only comes in the reality of experience.

- Life doesn't care whether you're ready or not.

- You get points for seeking out this forum. Few 18-year-old guys do this.

Good luck with all this.