Need help. Questions on Penis Size and Sex Before Marriage

**Peace of Mind** · 12-06-2008 05:53 PM

Hello! Being a guy, I am wondering what is the truth about penis size and sex. I ask for help because I am insecure and sensitive. I would appreciate any help. I have researched for numerous hours before asking a gynecologist about my penis and it's size and gave up because I find different information on every website.
I am relatively young at 18 and am confused if my penis size would continue to grow. I understand that the average size of a man's penis can range from 4 to 7 inches, some sites state that the average length in inches may be 4-5, 5-6.25, 5.5, 6-7, and so on. However, the majority of scientific sites state that penises are about 5.5 inches in length and roughly 4.5-5 inches in girth, I am not sure if this is a lie.
I am about 5.8 inches long and about 5.0 inches in girth circumference. I hope this this is fine for women who are under 5'6" tall. I am 5'8" (pretty short) and am insecure about my height as well. I know that a woman's vaginal depth does not exact correlate with her height, but it does have a consistency and the vagina has approximately 4 inches of feel when aroused.
Am I small? If so, is there anything I can do?
Also, my girlfriend, perhaps the most wonderful and sweetest person I will ever meet, has asked me, embarrassingly and nervously, if I will "make love to her". I thought for a moment and replied, "okay". I had not thought about our feelings of attachment and department for college, at the time, and I do not want to be fully committed to a relationship in which she most likely break up during college. I am fully committed to this first relationship. I had never had sex before and am afraid that if we have sex it will break both my moral and emotional code. I am not sure if I should have sex before marriage; however, women seem to be more promiscuous today (I apologize for the generalization) and I am not sure if I should have sex or not, although I really would like to on a pure emotional physical basis. She asked me if I would marry her. I feel as if I love her, but am not sure if I do, since love is only truly felt by two more experienced individuals. Truthfully, she lacks maturity and she is overprotected. I feel that she does not see our relationship as long term into college. I know that relationships cannot last in two separate ones... especially if a person majors in pharmaceuticals, and another in English and Humanities.
Religiously, I believe in a higher power in the like of Judaism and Christianity, but am not very strict religiously. I am not entirely sure about sex.
I have a severe self confidence issue. Although I am supposedly very very attractive, handsome, helpful, and a sweet perceptive person (many women tell me this), I feel so inferior to other men who are more social and funny. Therefore I am not sure if I am mature enough for sex, especially at my age, and especially because I do not understand myself. I also feel that I am
Perhaps sex will allow us to bond physically and emotionally and prevent a schism to form between us when we depart for college, or that it will give me experience with women in the future. I am worried that I will not meet a cute individual who is as sensitive as I am who is not as... promiscuous. I am afraid because so many women watch television shows such as Sex in the City, Coupling, and etc.
I appreciate that you've read this far. Thank you!
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Also, if possible can you answer me one last question?
I am planning on attending a accelerated pharmaceutical private science college on 6 years for a doctorate degree and and additional 3 for business and managing so I can earn a high payroll in marketing drugs, in which I will also minor in art and English. By that time, I will be 27. I also still training for the Olympics in fencing and will be ready within 4-6 years. I am also a (literally) a gifted artist and enjoy literature. However, I will not have the education in these fields. I am a very open and soft and kind person, also easily hurt and sensitive. I am sad because I am not incredibly funny or confident, although I am supposedly feminine handsome. Will a girl love me even though I will be a boring scientist and... despite the fact that I am Taiwanese?

I have been very confused/upset for months and not ready for college.

**hello_pitty** · 12-06-2008 06:18 PM

You seem like a normal size...But if you don't feel comfortable having sex then don't! You don't need to and shouldn't unless you are ready.

Here is a thread on Penis size that you can read....it mnight help you a little with confidence

http://www.womens-health.com/boards/...ize-small.html

**silvertae** · 12-06-2008 06:53 PM

You need to stop taking yourself so seriously. That's all I can say.

**zeos133** · 12-06-2008 08:56 PM

a lot of guys worry about size. I did at your age. But don't worry, most guys don't sling big guns like you see in porn. Some girls care about size, but most will tell you its not important. I'm not sure if it will continue to grow, but don't worry you're right at average and you really have nothing to worry about.

As for having sex. Many guys your age might jump at the opportunity, the decision to have sex is still guided by your morals and intuition. If it doesn't feel right, then don't do it. Your situation is complicated by a relationship and I think you're doing the right thing by thinking about this decision. Your girlfriend sounds sweet, but you guys are very young and many times these relationships do not last into college. There is nothing wrong with waiting to have sex, even if you wait for marriage, but it might not be necessary. Just remember, it doesn't matter what others do or how many partners they've had, you create your own path. If you think you'll feel guilty sleeping with your girlfriend because you might breakup when you go to college, it might be best not to have sex. But if both of you want to try it knowing that the relationship might not last forever, then go for it.

Don't worry about finding a girl to love you in the future. More than likely you'll find a cute innocent brainy girl just like you to marry. There are plenty of girls that will marry a "boring scientist". Many girls are attracted to educated men. Its cool that you have your professional life planned out, but while you're pursuing this try to have some fun and have some hobbies. You will need something to talk about with girls other than science. I'm an economist, and my girlfriend works in fashion and PR. We rarely talk about the economy, unless I'm trying to put her to sleep. haha. The point is, she has no interest in what I do, but we have lots of fun doing other things together.

Good luck.

**Livelaughlove** · 12-08-2008 12:19 PM