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Giving Head??
I've never given head before... I want to do it to my boyfriend and he is wanting it... does anyone have any tips they could share?? I'm really nervous to do it.. Please help.
had to check on your age and seeing that your young the only thing i am really going to tell you is relax, and it will come natural to you. dont try to be the porn star, just relax. reaad a few other posts about the subject and you'll do fine.
its something you will either enjoy or not.
I guess I'm repeating what JWB said, there is some post on this subject by some of the women to be honest made me wet my pants just reading them, (not why I read them) just happened. They should write books.
Relaxing the best you can Is very good advise and taking your time!
He'll probably love it if you tell him it is your first time.
Best option: Rent one of the many 'how to perform fellatio' DVDs that are on the market.
Second best option: Basic rule of the BJ "A blowjob can never be too loud, too wet or too messy". Then just be aware that his package will have a salty sweat flavor (it has been in his pants all day) and his ejaculate is going to feel like raw egg-whites and tastes kind of like bleach smells (I dont recommend drinking bleach so I can't actually say what bleach tastes like... but they do smell very similar). Also try not to use your teeth, if he does ask for teeth remember that you want to gently scrape his shaft, not bite it! (ouch). I wouldn't recommend even trying to deepthroat (ie: ramming his head past your tonsils so that your teeth are resting against his pubic mound) your first time, just dont even think about it. Lots of tongue movement, feel free to work the shaft with your hand, and I guarantee he'll climax in half the time if you make very audible pleasurable moans.
After ejaculation you have three options: swallow it (it has no nutritional value of any kind), spit it out, or hold it on your tongue and kiss him (aka. snowballing).
Will he like it? If he cums he likes it.
Will you like it? Can't say. Some people actually like the taste, some people simply want to vomit at the thought of it, but most people can work-past any bad flavor because they enjoy giving the pleasure. YMMV of course.
Speaking of "pleasurable moaning noises" a handy trick is thus: Tell your BF that instead of talking during the procedure that you want him to simply "concentrate about a completely white backdrop and make whatever groans, moans, or gasps that come to the front of his brain as soon as he feels something." This is the basic idea of EMOTING, a useful acting technique that has gained very widespread use in the pornography industry. If you can't hear him when your doing your thing tell him you'll stop if he doesn't turn the volume up. Try to get him on a volume level that he'd use for a call on a phone with poor reception. I guarantee you two will have a 500% better time than if everyone is just trying to be quiet or he's spouting bad cornball porn lines (Yeah, suck that baby. Ooh so good).
Taste varies widely, some men taste awful and others actually taste good (it's probably an aquired taste). You can look this up on Google or Yahoo and get a lot of diet/taste info. A man who likes getting head regularly will be happy to make some changes. If he has showered fairly recently he won't taste salty or stale. Tell him hands off your head. You need a fair amount of practice to handle letting him take control. To start with just explore using your tongue, feel the different textures and tastes, how he reacts. Just starting off you don't have to get him to cum, it can be a lead up to intercourse, you can switch to or combine with using your hands.
Some men never seem to cum with oral, others do fairly easily, the big thing is keeping it enjoyable for both of you. You need to try different posistions and see what gives you the least fatique. If you are taking the head and or shaft in your mouth, your jaw will get tired although when you really get into it, that's not much of an issue. It can vary, sometimes it flows the two of you are in sync and you get into and he does too and it's really great, other times it just may not 'click'. Don't worry about it, move on to doing something else.
Practice makes perfect, take it in little steps. you'll find what works for you.
yeah, telling him that it's the first time you've done it will be a turn on for him. Make it clear that if he tries to force himself into your mouth or down your throat that it will be the LAST time. I've found that keeping my top lip over my top teeth and my tongue over my lower teeth helps me to not bite. Also, asking him what feels good while you're giving it to him will give you some insight. Keep your hand around the base, and it will probably keep him from going in too far... don't try to deep throat on your first try. I almost vomited the first time I did that.
first of all, don't get overwhelmed by some of the posts in this thread, he'll love whatever you do!!! he might actually enjoying hearing you say its your first time then the BJ itself. I'm not sure how to give them, but I do know you want to avoid teeth if possible. You might try Tabatha's suggestion on that. Most guys won't tell you even if you're chewing on them. They'll simply accept the pain as a trade-off, but its usually not that pleasant. You can start by kissing and licking his penis up and down, and putting just the head in your mouth. Suck the head gently and give it some flicks with your tongue. Do this for awhile to see if if you can even get your mouth around him before trying to go further down. Some guys also like when you suck on and play with their balls, but if you go that route just remember they are VERY sensitive, and I mean VERY sensitive. haha.
Don't be embarrased if you don't get him off. As was already mentioned a lot of guys don't come this way. I rarely do. It can help if you use her hand some, just make sure you've lubed him up with syliva first.
Good luck! Have fun! And don't stress about it!
You probably don't want your tongue over your lower teeth, use your lower lip.
There have been previous posts about this...Scroll down to the bottom and you will get 5 results... here is one i posted on another thread. If you want to see the full thread click on the arrow and it will direct you there.
Good luck
Originally Posted by Livelaughlove
Nice guys don't finish last, weak guys finish last.
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