Thread: Useless on top

I have been with my boyfriend for 2.5 years, and he was my first. We have a really nice sex life, but I don't feel like I contribute enough.

I am very good at receiving... lol...and I love what my boyfriend does, but then when I am on top to do most of the moving, I don't have much of an effect. I have tried many different things, different angles, different motions, but it is never stimulating enough for me or for him (although he enjoys it as a break and a chance to appreciate me). I also get tired quickly. (I could be more fit, but I am not really out of shape, I am slim and I walk everywhere.)

Is there any specific advice that anyone could give me on how to be more effective. Is there something he should do to help at the same time? I would be open to almost anything.

Thanks!

I'm glad you posted because the same thing happens me....I'm not hardly getting any stimulation and I could (past tense because I'm currently single) feel him losing his erection, and then getting worried because I'm not doing enough to keep him hard.

One technique I do have is to lean over, shove my cleavage in his face...and get the angle of penetration more extreme so there's more friction. But I'm definately a girl that likes to lay back and be worshipped and adored lol....

I dont know how youre actually moving your body, but I've found that if I'm moving up and down I dont recieve much pleasure. I like to move back and forth, in a grinding motion, sometimes I lean back on his thighs or forward on top of him so that my clit is also stimulated.

Try having him raise his hips while your on top, it allows for deeper penetration...

what makes you more interesting by being on top. slow the process down, caress and do more kissing on his chest, ears, neck. make him want you, but dont let him finish first. let him know you want to get there first. if possible get in the spoon position and allow him to be inside you and let him play with you.
talk about the situation. just because you think you know each other doesnt really know what the individual really wants, dont be embarrased by talking during sex.

I do touch and kiss, that's what I am good at. And he does enjoy what I do, but I get the problems when it comes to actually stimulation when I'm on top. He can do what he likes when he is on me, but the otherway around is more difficult. But I'm sure I'd be good too if I had a penis! lol
And unlike many guys, he has very long stamina, almost too long in my opinion. He can hold off until he satisfies me completely which is great, but because of my difficulty to stimulate him (and my inability to give great blowjobs no matter what I try, although that is unrelated to this thread) makes me think that maybe he is less sensitive down there than what I have heard is typical? Is this bad/normal?

Is there something I can to make him more sensitive? I sense he likes to be in control, but sometimes I wish he would just lose it. hehe

Also, would someone mind describing what it feels like when it is good while on top? I am sensing that it is a different experience feeling-wise than when on the bottom. Feel free to message me if it is too graphic to explain here.

I find that when we are on the bed I cant get enough penetration because of the bed. We always do this on the floor and I'm in the squatted position over him, it makes it easier on me as far as the workout goes and it feels better. I'll either face him or do the reverse. He likes it either way.

You might want to try a circular shape with your hips. The penetration when you're on top is quite deep, usually resulting in the head of his penis bumping into your cervix. It can feel almost painful, but usually pleasurable at the same time. Here are a couple positions you might want to try:

Reverse cowboy: your back to him instead of facing him. That's usually even deeper than when you are facing him.

Have him sit on a couch or recliner and sit on him, facing away. That way it's slightly easier for him to move your hips and you can put your feet on the ground to move your body.

Sit facing him on a couch and put your feet next to his hips. Grab his arms (he should grab yours too), lean back and pull/push on each others arms so your bodies move back and forth.

For the last one, I mean sit on him. I meant to be more clear.

try the spoon position.

My girl on top is... "okay". Though she gets tired quickly. I like it specially cuz I feel she's doing it to me instead of me to her.

Though I've taught her something I really like =P: Instead of just being on top, try other positions you already do in which YOU can do all the move. In example, I really love when on doggy position she is moving forward and backwards while I stay there. Ah it's great, plus different! She goes on a different "rhythm" I'd do it =)

You may wanna try that. If there's a position that makes you tired, it will keep on making you tired...