Thread: Is there more to it then sex?

I was wondering if you thought that how a man is in bed highly reflects his personality? Is this a good way to judge that?

The guy I'm with now if all about pleasing me, and I know he would go to great lengths to make sure I'm satisfied. There has to be more to it than just great sex. Does a caring sexual partner more often than not lead to a more caring partner in general?

Originally Posted by sepia13

I was wondering if you thought that how a man is in bed highly reflects his personality? Is this a good way to judge that?

I'd say so

Normally you'll experience things in the bedroom you wouldn't normally experience outside in a platonic situation.

But..... a personality is a complex thing

I think it matters to some extent. as far as how people are in bed versus how they are outside of the bedroom. I know that my fiance is happy if I orgasm and he always tells me that it doesn't matter weather or not he does. and as far as outside the bedroom he is the most loving person I have ever been with and he is willing to do anything for me. But who knows people are very complex, so leave it to your better judgement.

Saying that a man goes to great lengths to please you means he loves women, not necessarily that he loves you. Some men see a woman as a place to put their thing, while others will bring a woman to orgasm over and over just to prove they can do it. Both are womanizers.

On the other hand, a lot of men have mother issues, and it's a positive step when they can just give a woman a healthy, detached f*ck based on nothing but being a strong masculine presence. It's possible to love a woman too much, to be too concerned about what's going on in her head. There's a happy medium, a balance to be found.

It's kind of a guy's dirty little secret. You become a better lover when you let go of the whole "sensitive new age guy" thing. It's OK to treat her like an object. Quite refreshing, actually. As long as you're not building on a false understanding or being manipulative. The problem is that it takes us guys until we are somewhere in our 30's to figure this out. Most of us spend our 20's being too much one way or too much the other.