I want to have exciting sex again.

ElizabethRaex33 · 12-21-2008, 11:00 PM

I haven't had exciting sex in about a month. My boyfriend and I had a really romantic weekend, but the sex has gone from special, to sort of annoying. I told him it's getting boring and he's tried almost everything, I have an orgasm almost every time we have sex, but it's just not the same, It's sort of like, I finish so we're done with the whole thing. I need some ways to excite things. I bought books, tried other positions, i've done a few things, I've never actually performed oral sex, I just really don't know how, and I'm pretty scared to mess up with him. He says sex doesn't matter to him, but it matters a lot to me.

Missy Belle · 12-22-2008, 12:29 AM

first of all loose the hang ups...

you both sound pretty inexperienced so embrace it

watch porn together, mutual masturbate, experiment to find out what you like and dislike...that to me is exciting exploring the endless pleasures you both could have together... go visit a sex shop go purchase a toy together... try different spots bit of spontaneity doesnt hurt.

StateofMind · 12-22-2008, 01:54 PM

Hope this doesn't offend anyone, but a rape fantasy is always an interesting experience. Try role-play.

**collegegirl2009** · 01-21-2009, 05:02 PM

Rape is no fantasy.

**rcoreyus** · 01-21-2009, 07:30 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by collegegirl2009

Rape is no fantasy.

A "rape fantasy" is different from a rape. Some people (of both genders, and as "rapist" and "victim") enjoy rape fantasies. The difference between a "rape fantasy" and a rape, is that in the fantasy either can stop it whenever they want.

It is like play wrestling, spanking, bondage, or any of the other "forced" sort of sex games. If both parties enjoy it, great. But if either doesn't like it, they shouldn't do it.

**rcoreyus** · 01-21-2009, 07:33 PM

To the original poster: If you want -go ahead and try oral sex. Lot of men REALLY like it, and some women find it fun to have such control over their man's pleasure. I'm sure he won't mind if you are not expert at first - the idea that this is the first time you are doing this will be very exciting in itself.

Mostly have fun. Be willing to try new things - and to understand that you will like some and not others.

**2morrow** · 01-22-2009, 07:50 AM

You say you haven't had exciting sex in a month ! Do you realize that some couples can go years ! I wouldn't be too worried if I were you. You do sound very young, and you just need to be patient and communicate with one another. There is a phase that all couples go thru and at the beginning its the hot and heavy, can't wait to have you phase and once that does wear off that is when real life does kick in and you do have to make the effort for each other. If you truly love and care for one another, sex doesn't ever have to be dull or routine.

rest1234 · 01-22-2009, 10:21 AM

Romance each other and seduce him like you did when you 1 started dating.

Sounds like it part of settling in.

12-21-2008, 11:00 PM	#1
ElizabethRaex33 Junior Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Rochester, Ny . Posts: 7	I want to have exciting sex again. I haven't had exciting sex in about a month. My boyfriend and I had a really romantic weekend, but the sex has gone from special, to sort of annoying. I told him it's getting boring and he's tried almost everything, I have an orgasm almost every time we have sex, but it's just not the same, It's sort of like, I finish so we're done with the whole thing. I need some ways to excite things. I bought books, tried other positions, i've done a few things, I've never actually performed oral sex, I just really don't know how, and I'm pretty scared to mess up with him. He says sex doesn't matter to him, but it matters a lot to me.

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12-22-2008, 12:29 AM	#2
Missy Belle Junior Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: queensland australia Posts: 10	first of all loose the hang ups... you both sound pretty inexperienced so embrace it watch porn together, mutual masturbate, experiment to find out what you like and dislike...that to me is exciting exploring the endless pleasures you both could have together... go visit a sex shop go purchase a toy together... try different spots bit of spontaneity doesnt hurt.

12-22-2008, 01:54 PM	#3
StateofMind Junior Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 3	Hope this doesn't offend anyone, but a rape fantasy is always an interesting experience. Try role-play.

01-21-2009, 05:02 PM	#4
collegegirl2009 VIP Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 31	Rape is no fantasy.

01-21-2009, 07:33 PM	#6
rcoreyus March 2008 "Poster of the Month" Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: SF bay area Posts: 1,333	To the original poster: If you want -go ahead and try oral sex. Lot of men REALLY like it, and some women find it fun to have such control over their man's pleasure. I'm sure he won't mind if you are not expert at first - the idea that this is the first time you are doing this will be very exciting in itself. Mostly have fun. Be willing to try new things - and to understand that you will like some and not others.

01-22-2009, 07:50 AM	#7
2morrow VIP Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Canada Posts: 70	You say you haven't had exciting sex in a month ! Do you realize that some couples can go years ! I wouldn't be too worried if I were you. You do sound very young, and you just need to be patient and communicate with one another. There is a phase that all couples go thru and at the beginning its the hot and heavy, can't wait to have you phase and once that does wear off that is when real life does kick in and you do have to make the effort for each other. If you truly love and care for one another, sex doesn't ever have to be dull or routine.

01-22-2009, 10:21 AM	#8
rest1234 Junior Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 13	Romance each other and seduce him like you did when you 1 started dating. Sounds like it part of settling in.