ILoveChopsticks

Thanks rcoreyus for the input. I'm still not sure about the open relationship idea but it could work with the right people. Its always in the back of my head but I don't think I'm sexually ready for it yet. Also thank you PaneraBread for the advice. I'm going to try the standard licking and bobbing tonight. Wish me luck.

PaneraBread

No problem. Good luck...I just hope my words made sense. It's hard explaining it, when it's easier to just see it done lol.

Porn doesn't help, b/c all what they show is deep-throating/gagging....

WildChild

We've been through this soooo many times. If your just run through the past few months on this thread you will find a lot of info. Don't try sucking right off, start with licking and kissing and learning your way around his penis and balls. Ask him what feels good.
You might get a book or DVD?

Richard S

Any guy will start climbing the walls if he stops masturbating for a week. Ask him to get pent up, then try some gentle licking and sucking in the area around the head and directly beneath the urethral opening (it's called the frenulum). Take your time, give yourself permission to explore his penis, to understand it on your terms. Tell him he has to let you do this.

Don't get a complex about this. Women who are great at giving head know that it's not about the technique, it's about loving your man, but also loving his c*ck as if it were a thing unto itself, and the lucky guy gets to go along for the ride. Once you get that, the technique will follow naturally.

But to answer your original question, it's not about the sucking. I mean, some women have a technique that involves a lot of suction, while others will gently use their lips, tongue, and hands, and not much suction at all.
You get to find the way that works for you. Good luck.

JWB_pof

for the oral part of your thread, read a few posts on the subject, watch a few porn movies to get ideas. dont imatate the porn queens though b/c thats their living and its over-rated BS.
ever waatch those b-rated movies or the dumb comedy where they try to show a sexy scene of a girl licking a lollipop? theres a start for you.
and practice but most of all relax, dont put to much pressure on yourself. you can only improve if its as bad as you say. just relax.

as for open relationships, well i never been in one, not my thing. but to have one, you need alot, and i mean alot of confidence, secureity of yourself, and more. for you writting about BJ's i suggest you do not do it as that is one reason to not to start one. if you concerned he may leave you b/c of the bj's you give or him not being satisfied from them, your not secure enough.
they can work but like above posted, many fail for obvious reasons.

rcoreyus

In another thread I asked where women were finding the terrible men they were describing. Now I'll ask where they are finding the terrible porn? There is lots of free amateur stuff on the internet - just couples making love who like to show off. (The internet is a fantastic place for exhibitionists and voyeurs to meet )

PaneraBread

Of course, it's called pornfor women or you got to take the time to look for it. If I type "blowjob" in the search engine, I automatically get gagging videos.

d9139ont

Try getting a book or two. There are lots out there on sucking ie. fellatio, blowjobs. Go to Amazon.com and type in a search for oral sex or fellatio. A bunch of books pop up. Read the reviews and buy a couple of books. There are also instructional videos you can get on Amazon.

mewhenim

I'm a big fan of licking around the head, remember this is the most sensitive part! especially looping my tongue around the riged band and flicking it over the (I forget the name) little scar thing left after circumcision.