Thread: I need some input..boyfriend stopped having sex with me.

Is he on any medications? I've read recently about a lot of young men on certain medications, especially antidepressents, have a decreased drive. If you are pretty sure he is not cheating it could also just be a phase he's going through, and if he is having any difficulty with arousal - bringing it up will lead to performance anxiety which can only make matters worse. Maybe trying something new could spark up a little fire, good luck and don't take it personal! We tend to beat ourselves up over THEIR drive issues, be patient and compassionate make sure he knows how happy he makes you when he does please you. Positive reinforcement works best on just about anything

i know how you feel. when i first met my hubby we were all over each other now after 4 months of marriage we hardly do it and he is always tired.

Same here..we had been dating for over a year before we moved in together and now for the past 8 months he's never in the mood...its hard you feel that he doesnt want you anymore or isnt interested sexually in you anymore and before you know it you start having lots of fight and problems for no apparent reason..
i tried talking to him as well a couple of times..the answer is always the same..the more we talk about it the more stressed i get..
i dont hun..even if its just a phase that hes going through be patient, but dont also forget that all men and women in the beginning are all over each other and as time goes by that goes away...you need to see if this just the real him now that the first months of you being in love have gone by...

There is the possibilty that after six months of daily sex that the "New and Exciting" is gone. It's not that it's your's or his fault but we are animals. His Has seeded you many times and now you are old. Or the possibilty that he may feel that he has experienced everything he can with you. This does not mean that he does not care or not love you but an subconcience influencing his daily duties.
My suggestion would be to never stop trying new things. Keep the anticipation of something new an unexpected in the back of his head.

My husband is one of those people who just is not that interested in sex (we are both 25) but he is definitely affectionate. He also does not react with irritability or hostility when I mention it to him. That more than anything else makes me think you both need to sit down and have a good conversation about where your relationship is and whether or not he wants to continue it. It may be painful for both of you but wouldn't you rather hear that he no longer wants to be with you from him than to catch him cheating. I am not saying that he is but a good conversation about the issue would help. Having a hard time... try writing a note or emailing him. (Thats what everyone told me to try with a current problem and it has at least brought the issue out into the open between us. It didn't fix the issue but it started the dialogue)

Originally Posted by damd

There is the possibilty that after six months of daily sex that the "New and Exciting" is gone. It's not that it's your's or his fault but we are animals. His Has seeded you many times and now you are old.

This raises a good point....

As to what happens to couples who don't constantly keep their relationship Number one priority...If couples don't, this is what happens....and it happens to some couples right before their eyes and they don't even realize it!

i have gone through this with all of the women i have dated for 7 mo. or longer. it could just be a stale spot in your sex life. i don't know where your relationship is on the freaky scale, but it might be time to move up to the next level. if you started with the super freaky it dosen't give you much room to expand, but if you somewhere down around the missionary or doggie style level you still have plenty to work with. talk to him with an open mind about what it is that turns him on. i would bet that if you let him know and show him how bad you want it from him, he couldn't possibly say no.

it could be many things, psycological to physical, but atleast this is something you can try out.

I hope this is not to late or maybe i can get heard on this... but i have the exact same issue except i have a high libido and i am not sure how to fix this when i have tried those great suggestions which they work but you can only go to dinner so many times or wear fancy outfits till they are just p.j.s now. I want to stay in the relationship and don't want to cheat and want to refrain from buying a toy to do the job. I love him but i hate my love life!!! is there hope?

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