Thread: Giving my first blowjob..

I'm terribly scared and I have no idea, my partner always "goes down" on me but I refuse to do it to him due to a recent experience (being forced to give a guy a bj at a party). I told him about it and he's okay with not getting one, but I've been thinking about it for weeks and I really want to make it happen. can someone tell me what to do please? (:

Overcoming your fear of what happened or how to do the act?

How to do the act ...

Libby, I wouldn't mind going into some of the motions sis but there is so much info on this forum concerning such, use the words, giving head, blow job and such.
There can be alot to it since it's your 1st and theres those things to overcome that will take some time. The Main thing is not to feel in a hurry just relax and don't feel like you have to be in a race to get every step right. Even with tons of advice much of it will be you and his discovery on what makes him tick, you see what I'm saying.

Trying looking those Threads up tho and if you have trouble finding I'll find for ya, let us know... Good Luck!

I just looked something up for you and you do it under search right above us here in the main Header section under Search. Enter the word blowjob and your get 48 threads. some won't pertain to you but many will

Originally Posted by ElizabethRaex33

I'm terribly scared and I have no idea, my partner always "goes down" on me but I refuse to do it to him due to a recent experience (being forced to give a guy a bj at a party). I told him about it and he's okay with not getting one, but I've been thinking about it for weeks and I really want to make it happen. can someone tell me what to do please? (:

If he is ok with you not doing this and your still having bad feelings about this rape why? I would say talk to a therapist about this and don't feel this is a critical part of sex. DH and I didn't do this for a long time because he was not into it (previous relationship - complex) and I only mildly am into doing it. We do now once in a blue moon but its not "required" in any relationship.

Let him know it is your first - he will probably appreciate it all the more. In addition to the zillions of posts her, you could watch a porno for some ideas: Not the professional stuff, but the sort of amateur thing you can find on the web of people doing things they really enjoy, not actors pretending.

Also, if you can talk to him (and it sounds like you can), let him tell you what he wants.

If you start to get uncomfortable or have flashbacks, stop.

I think the best advise you are going to get on pleasing him with oral sex will come directly from him. There really isn't a standard procedure when it comes to BJ's - different people like different things done differently. If you are using your hands, mouth and tongue in that general area, go slowly try different things. Watch, listen and feel for his reactions - you will know when you are doing something he is enjoying. If he is not very verbal or isnt a noise maker: every once in a while say "do you like that?" " or "does that feel good?" or "is this too fast/slow?"

I don't think there is a man around that will complain or be unhappy about their lover gently exploring how to please them.