Thread: Help!!!!! Is he GAY?

It is possible he loves you, but is physically attracted to men. Or maybe he is confused about his sexuality, and frustrated by his erection problems and thinks being gay is more acceptable than being impotent.

Is there any chance you can talk to him openly?

Not all men have a high sex drive, and sometimes (obviously) it's the woman that isn't getting it as many times a week/month/year as she would like. They can of course masturbate and reach orgasm alone so that the physical needs are being met. However the need for intimacy with their partner, would still be left wanting.

I don't think that you should make him feel bad for not being as interested in sex but if the gender roles on this issue were reversed , society would be telling you that as a wife you have an obligation to meet your husbands physical needs. Of course it is easier for a woman to participate in sex when she isn't arroused than it is for a man (the magic of KY).

Perhaps their is a way that you can get the intimacy you crave with him, from him by alternative means. Would it be possible for you to innitiate having him hold you, kiss you while you masturbate? Maybe then leading into asking him for some manual or oral assistance. Even if he is unable to provide you with intercourse with his penis, maybe he could control a toy to please you with.

If the relationship is good outside of the bedroom, and he is generally caring and concerned for your happiness.. I don't think that any of the suggestions above would be too difficult for him to provide while you guys work on the barrier that is keeping him from wanting a more traditional sex life with you.

If he is able to see that he can give you pleasure with or without an erection, perhaps that will take some of the pressure off him if performance anxiety is what is keeping him from sex.

As far as the magazines go, who knows. Men (and women) are complicated creatures and there are so very many things that them on or that they are curious about. Many are things they would never dream of wanting to participate in but just enjoy the fantasy of.

Communication is going to be the key to unlocking what turns him on, perhaps sharing sexual fantasies, even ones you are embarrased about. You go first and tell him something that makes you both blush maybe that will inspire him to open up.