Thread: Threesomes...

I had one with my best friend... we met the guy at a party... it just sort of happened and we both liked it because he was a professional surfer. Just find a girl who is willing to do things more to you than your man. my best friend didn't want to do things with me yet i was willing so it just made it almost completely a twosome...

try a party.

Originally Posted by Livelaughlove

1. Go to a swingers gathering around you. Trust me they exist. You can find them by doing a search.

Originally Posted by happy ending

yes a swingers club would be the way to go, cant you just fantasize about it? i think you will find reality disapointing - as it so often is #sigh# are you trying to be the perfect girlfriend so your boy will propose? or am i being cynical?

Originally Posted by Phoebee

Trust... Can you trust him (her) to be focused on you after being intimate with other people?

Health... When your exclusive you can throw out the condoms and have a fair idea that you not going to get an STD. When you invite a new person(s) into your bed you have them and everyone they ever slept with. And "if" they are open to doing people in groups what are the odds they are going to bring an STD to you? I think pretty good.

I've never tried quoting before.. so fingers crossed lol

And I'm not sure if I'm supposed to answer all the posts but I think I have majority of the stuff said in the above.

So to the first one, I did look into going to a swingers club, but I was told I was too young. I'm 19.

To the second, again I'm 19 and if he actually did propose I might faint. We have talked about it but only so far as to say we'll think about it seriously when we're 25/28 ish, just older and with the career side of our lifes in order. Weither or not we have a threesome ever won't effect weither or not he proposes in the future lol

To the third,
Trust... I've let him be with another woman once already. He had feelings for her. And I just trusted my gut that they wouldn't last. She never felt like a threat. We basically took a break to let him see how they worked. I'm glad we did as we're closer now. I'm always gonna be his friend first, I love him and just want him to be happy. I think he'll be happiest with me and if it takes letting see other women that's what it takes. Like they say "if you love someone let them go and if they come back they're yours".

Health... there is no way we would do something with someone we didn't know without a condom. Would be out of the question.

Hi Smiles,
You seem to have a great attitude. I'm not sure I could say the same thing at your age. Most of us are less self confident and more prone to jealousy when we're younger. My SO (significant other by the way) and I grew out of that the longer we were married. We've had threesomes on several occasions. The first time I found someone on the web and we met them at a restuarant. That one was exciting but in the end not as much fun as I expected it to be. We were never with her again. Then about 5 years later one thing lead to another with a friend of mine and we had sex with her many times over the next couple of years. Hubby and I actually grew even closer as we saw what we had always believed about each other proven time and again. We could trust each other totally and without fail. Not only did I SO enjoy playing with another female, but he loved seeing me give and receive pleasure with another.....knowing all the while that no matter what, I'd be going home with him. And it was a huge turn on for me to see her pleasure him. BUT, we had talked about doing this for years before we actually did and we had long ago set limits on what we were comfortable with. We had rules that could not be broken. Ok....actually I had rules...hehe. He didn't care what I did. But I didn't want him kissing her in the mouth and I didn't want him have intercourse with her. Other than that, anything was fair game. If you and you're BF are careful and communicate ALL of your feeling both before, after....and even during if something comes up that bothers either one of you, I think you'll both love it and grow closer. You seem to have total trust and no jealousy and that is exactly what it takes to enjoy it. Good luck!!

Oh yay! I'm so delighted to hear that! I really really hope our threesome turns out as well as yours did. It could be another year before we actually do it. I want to find the right other girl.. One that won't turn into a stalker... lol!!!