Thread: Threesomes...

Before I start I just want to say he has never ever pressured me into anything.
When he first mentioned it, maybe two years ago, I didn't really take the idea seriously. It just became something that came up when we were flirting.

I was never completely turned off by the idea. And recently (like over the past year) after thinking about it on a more serious level. It ha become something I would like to try.

I have asked all my female friends for their opinions on the subject and no one was interested in joining us.

So I'm left with no idea what to do next...

I was wondering if someone has done this before, how did they get the other woman?
He says we should go out some night to bars and just flirt with women and see where that takes us. I would try it, just for the laugh lol but I can't imagine actually finding a willing woman that way?
Ideas anyone?

As Samantha on Sex and the City said, the only way to have a threesome with no drama is to be the 3. :-) However, that is only an opinion. If this is something you're going to try, you must be prepared for the consequences. Will it change your trust in him or vice versa? Will it create insecurities? Will it open up a door to your relationship you don't truly want?
I personally, have never tried this......but everyone I know that has, said that it ended up being destructive to the cherished relationship they once had. Hopefully some on here can give you some more positive feedback.....

And I'd say your husband is right....you could likely find a willing partner in that kind of environment....

hehe my husband... I wish haha...

I really don't think it would change my trust in him. I've never had a problem with girls flirting with him or anything like that. I think/hope exploring sexual fantasys will bring us even closer together. I don't know anyone who has had a threesome. I wouldn't be insecure of the other woman, she wouldn't have the history I have with him, she wouldn't ever know him as well as I do, there's no competition.

You mind me asking how it effected their relationships so badly?

It's happened to me just once by accident,

I had a friend in the service that had 2 girls and 1 weekend on liberty all of us had 1 motel room rented.
1 day he had to leave for quite awhile and left me with these two girls and before I knew there I was in bed with them. To be honest I was a little taken back because I was lacking confidence I could perform but it wasn't long before they were able to work the confidence up for me, you know what I mean? It was quite the experience. I was single at the time and he was the kind of guy that it didn't bother him at all, and 1 of them he lived with and had a good relationship.Don't have any advise, just telling my experience. I had totally forgotten all about it until I seen your thread, for me those were the years of great explorations!

Security issues, trust issues, where to go next issues.......I hear basically the same things over and over. I do believe it could be an interesting experience as In Need says, however, keep in mind that he was the 3....not in a relationship with 1 or 2. When there are no strings attached, I think it could be pretty great.....

but...

I still have huge reservations about doing it as a couple. Best wishes to you whatever you decide!

Thanks for the advice.

I hope what we have is strong enough to work through any issues. But I won't rush into anything.

no real advice to give you, other than you may want to search the forum using the search feature using the keyword threesome and look in the sex forum area.

I did a search and it did show a lot of threads where threesome was referenced. Not sure if this will work, but here's the link on the result:

Women's Health Support Forums - Search Results

Originally Posted by Beautiful Disaster

I still have huge reservations about doing it as a couple.

I definitely feel the same way here, no strings is different. Don't know If I could ever do it with my SO!

So = girlfriend person? lol

Can I ask why?

I don't know if I could do the no strings attacted thing. The idea of a man I don't know touching me is a major turn off. Though I have no problem with a woman doing the same thing.

Oh thanks! I'm very new at this, that really helped