Thread: virginity lost at 14

well mayb mines will help u.. i had the Same ExACT situation.. my mom was way over protected and my boyfriends mom was 2... we've been together 4 3 years 4 months now
and we both lost our virginity 2 each other.. but i waited a year b4 i told my mom and when i finally did she was more upset with the fact that i waited so long... i was 14 also but he was 16.. my mom is cool with it now.. she didnt even kno i had a boyfriend but ur momz knos ur growig up and she had to go thru the same things too.. just tell her.. and if she gets upset show her that u kno what ur doing and that u got a good head on ur shoulder.. tell her i wanna have a good mother and daughter relationship and in order to do that u have to b honest because in reality she is ur mom and she has the right to kno

thanks for the help

My mom said the same thing to me. I didnt tell her though , and ended up getting caught. That was a lot more trouble than if I had told her. However , when she cooled off she just wanted to have me put on birthcontrol and get a pap smear. I would recommend that you inform yourself before you tell her . Make sure you know the risk of being sexual active , your birthcontrol options , a general idea of your options if the birthcontrol fails , and its also a good idea to have a talk with your partner about what limits you want and what you would do if you did get pregnant ... Having done this and showing you are taking this seriously and being responsible may make it easier for your mom to take. It did for mine.

Also , if she doesnt take it well , know that in time she will. I am not saying she will give you a lot of alone time with your partner or anything ... just that she will accept that you are human. Plus , if you are the eldest child ( I am ) ... she may be trying to figure out how to handle this situation just as much as you are .