Connect with Facebook
LinkBack URL
About LinkBacksok here's the deal. I want to give head to my bf but every time I try I freak out. I don't know why I do but for some reason I usually am not able to follow thru. And if I do, I gag horribly.
Does anyone have any ideas/suggestions?
oral.
ok here's the deal. I want to give head to my bf but every time I try I freak out. I don't know why I do but for some reason I usually am not able to follow thru. And if I do, I gag horribly.
Does anyone have any ideas/suggestions?
I don't know your approach, but one thing would naturally help is don't try and take it all in, stay at the top and maybe a little farther down, do some licking, use your fingers and hand at the same time. Then go slow and work at switching off to different things, positions and so forth. Go easy. It might help if you try it when you're in that state of being very sexually aroused, I mean Hot! This may help you overcome some of the issues....... Good Luck!
Start off treating his penis like a big rocket pop. Lick it up and down and all around. Tickle the head with your tongue. Kiss it, gently take his ball in your mouth (one at a time) and see how everything tastes and feels. While you're learning and exploring don't let him grab your head or start thrusting, you need to be more experienced to handle that. Start slow and keep it fun.
WC has it right, one thing that men seem to want to do is grab the head, your head, and thrust it forward, you don't want that, a man that's in control of himself will let you do what comes natural (not the Porno way!) this will go along way for you and him. Let him know that.
Communicate thru the whole process, you can stop and then go on, there's no rush in this! The fact my SO would want to do this to me turns me on, soooooo, I have no deep concern on how she does it! It''s all good as far as I'm concerned.
Do these things 1st, then come back
Don't focus so much on how deep you take him in or how to overcome the gag reflex. Take a step back and focus on your overall presentation. Guys are very visual. Put him in a chair or on a sofa. Use your hands, tease his manhood while he still has his pants on. Keep eye contact while you're doing all this. Once you are into the act itself, focus on the head, and the area under the head called the frenulum. Focus on the area above the circumcision line, while using your hands for the rest of the shaft. Also don't forget to kiss him all over, including the balls, etc. Make him feel like his manhood is the center of your erotic universe. Put on a show for him. Experiment with wearing sexy clothes, nice undies, or put on the blouse and skirt you wear to school or the office. Also do it in unusual places, in his car, out in public. Do you see how the variations are endless?
Last edited by CHANDLERS WISH; 01-10-2009 at 03:17 AM. Reason: new rules ahh sorry Richard - no* to make a word scencored changed to manhood
it also helps if you look at him. if you look up (and i know it may not be easy in all positions) most of the time he will be watching. but don't get self conscious, he is watching his manhood go into your mouth that's all. men are very visual as somone else said. also mints help my mouth relax but make sure he knows you had one cuz it changes how it feels to him. also when i first started giving my guy oral, i had trouble keeping it lubricated and used other lube to help which caused me to gag when i would go deep. not a good feeling. but i started spitting on him i know it sounds funny but if you watch a girl go down in a porno she is spitting everywhere!! and dont try to swallow till you are very comfortable. have him tell you when he's gonna... and let him do it on his stomach. tell him it turns you on to watch that. and finally VERY IMPORTANT if he is not circumcised... make sure he is clean. have him wash it or show you how to wash it because my last bf was not circumcised and when it wasnt freshly cleaned it had a strange (not really bad) smell that made it impossible for me to endure going down on him. let me know if that helps
thanks for all the advice guys! I was going to try it out last night but he pinched a nerve in his back so he felt awful =( I'm gonna try all this out tonight and I'll let ya know how it goes.
Don't forget your "happy ending options"
1. Finish with a handjob. (Technique: Doorknob. How to: Grease his crankshaft up real good. then using one hand twist his package like you're trying to turn a doorknob.)
PS: yes I name techniques. I think I know about 20 for handjob
2. swallow it (self explanatory)
3. spit it out. In a FemDom setting (female domination) spit it back in his face and call him something nasty.
4. Snowball it. (keep it in your mouth and french kiss him)
trick
One thing you can do to shorten the time of actually having it in your mouth is just to talk to him during the whole thing. After a few strokes, ask him if he likes it, then do something different, and ask him again... Look up at his face, he will love that if he's got his eyes open. Then just tell him that you "need" to have him inside you... that should put an end to the oral if you really don't like doing it.
Posting Permissions
Reply With Quote
Bookmarks