new position?

**robbin** · 02-01-2009, 10:58 AM

my boyfriend started doing something new, totally out of no where.

a few days after our 1 year anniversary, we had sex. we couldn't on the day cuz i had gotten the shot a few days before that and the doc said i had to wait a week before we could stop using condoms. so anyway. we put on a stimulating dvd... we let thing escalate, then as i was going down on him, he stopped me and came down to the floor with me. everything normal. the normal beginnings to a great sex night. then he turned me around... ok doggie style, i like that position.... then as soon as he entereed me, he gently pushed me to the floor so i was laying completely straight on my belly and he was straddling me.
he continued this position till he came, the whole time with his eyes glued to the tv.

well i felt kind of odd, like i wasn't really involved in the sex that night, but i didn't think much about it. i figured he needed a night where it was about him and im cool with that.

yesterday morning, he did it again, but he had woken me up and i was on top then he moved to the other position. just no porn this time.

and again last night, we were laughing and flirting in bed, and he pulled off my pants and grabbed my leg to turn me around. same position till he was done.

i don't dislike the position, but it's not my fave.

i don't really understand why he did it. and i don't just want to say "why did you do that?" i think he would feel kinda hurt.

and he's a little on the heavy side so it makes it kinda hard to breath. imagine someone's entire body pressing you into the carpet or the mattress...

**Beautiful Disaster** · 02-01-2009, 01:54 PM

I'm always looking up new sexual positions....perhaps one of his guys friends mentioned this one. other than the discomfort of his weight on you, what is it that truly concerns you about this? Are you thinking he has been cheating, tried this with someone else and liked it? Are you concerned that this is a very impersonal position? It's not an uncommon position, but I understand that when things change in the bedroom it definitely sparks up an interest......."where did this come from?" This position creates a much tighter feeling for the guy, and I'm sure he's enjoying that.
Ahh....I remember coming home one time when I was with my ex and noticing the mattress slightly pushed (probably a few inches) off the box springs. Yes..I noticed...but would've felt incredibly insane to mention it. My own insecurities right? It wasn't but a few days later that we were having sex, and he wanted me to get up beside the bed with him behind me, and put my hands on the mattress. It was quite rough sex, and I so vividly remember my hands pushing the mattress to where I could see the box springs. As soon as it happened, I froze and remembered seeing the mattress that way only a few days before(knowing we hadn't done that before)........and I knew. And I was right. He had been cheating. So now, in any situation I'm in (not with that guy of course!), I notice the smallest change and in my mind I question it. "Why did he just do that...he's never done that before?". But I question it because of my insecurities about being cheated on. Most of the time, the guy is just being adventurous and trying something new.....and it most certainly doesn't always mean something "weird" is going on.
Sounds like he's just found something he really likes and wants to do it again and again. I'm sort of like that after finding my perfect position to have a killer orgasm. haha. Sometimes I feel like an addict craving drugs. lol Perhaps next time he tries to do this, just take control and say "lets switch things up a bit". Its important for you to be satisfied too. Don't be afraid to take control, let him have his "new position" sometimes, but other times.....do it the way you like to do it.

**Tuesday** · 02-01-2009, 02:51 PM

You say that if you mention it you would 'kinda hurt him' but isn't he kinda hurting you by making you feel like you're the human blow up doll....

I think you're within your rights to point out that this position doesn't do much for you.

Would you make him do something he really wasn't all that into?

**robbin** · 02-03-2009, 11:21 PM

i probably would. but i know he would enjoy knowing i liked it. like it did in this position at first. i guess it really just fels impersonal. i know for sure he is not cheating. he adores me. and we communicate so much and so well that i always know where he is.

**Tuesday** · 02-04-2009, 02:37 AM

I think if you're content to go along with this postition it's fine, in the course of a loving relationship where there is give as well as take. Make sure that it's balanced by having your needs met too, because if you give more than you recieve, you'll only end up feeling resentful.

**rcoreyus** · 02-07-2009, 06:17 AM

Its good to experiment with new positions. Maybe he heard about it at a site like this one you are reading now. If you don't like it, tell him. Otherwise I think variety is a fine thing. Since it is new, he may want to do it for the novelty for a while, but will probably get bored of the same thing after a while.

**nightqueen** · 02-07-2009, 02:00 PM

It seems like he's kind of using you. Are you enjoying this? He doesn't have the right to just turn you over and get off without caring what you think and if you even like it. If you can't express your feelings to him then I don't think that's a good thing in a relationship. Good luck.

02-01-2009, 10:58 AM	#1
robbin VIP Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: running springs CA Posts: 51	new position? my boyfriend started doing something new, totally out of no where. a few days after our 1 year anniversary, we had sex. we couldn't on the day cuz i had gotten the shot a few days before that and the doc said i had to wait a week before we could stop using condoms. so anyway. we put on a stimulating dvd... we let thing escalate, then as i was going down on him, he stopped me and came down to the floor with me. everything normal. the normal beginnings to a great sex night. then he turned me around... ok doggie style, i like that position.... then as soon as he entereed me, he gently pushed me to the floor so i was laying completely straight on my belly and he was straddling me. he continued this position till he came, the whole time with his eyes glued to the tv. well i felt kind of odd, like i wasn't really involved in the sex that night, but i didn't think much about it. i figured he needed a night where it was about him and im cool with that. yesterday morning, he did it again, but he had woken me up and i was on top then he moved to the other position. just no porn this time. and again last night, we were laughing and flirting in bed, and he pulled off my pants and grabbed my leg to turn me around. same position till he was done. i don't dislike the position, but it's not my fave. i don't really understand why he did it. and i don't just want to say "why did you do that?" i think he would feel kinda hurt. and he's a little on the heavy side so it makes it kinda hard to breath. imagine someone's entire body pressing you into the carpet or the mattress...

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02-01-2009, 01:54 PM	#2
Beautiful Disaster Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: United States - Kentucky Posts: 484	I'm always looking up new sexual positions....perhaps one of his guys friends mentioned this one. other than the discomfort of his weight on you, what is it that truly concerns you about this? Are you thinking he has been cheating, tried this with someone else and liked it? Are you concerned that this is a very impersonal position? It's not an uncommon position, but I understand that when things change in the bedroom it definitely sparks up an interest......."where did this come from?" This position creates a much tighter feeling for the guy, and I'm sure he's enjoying that. Ahh....I remember coming home one time when I was with my ex and noticing the mattress slightly pushed (probably a few inches) off the box springs. Yes..I noticed...but would've felt incredibly insane to mention it. My own insecurities right? It wasn't but a few days later that we were having sex, and he wanted me to get up beside the bed with him behind me, and put my hands on the mattress. It was quite rough sex, and I so vividly remember my hands pushing the mattress to where I could see the box springs. As soon as it happened, I froze and remembered seeing the mattress that way only a few days before(knowing we hadn't done that before)........and I knew. And I was right. He had been cheating. So now, in any situation I'm in (not with that guy of course!), I notice the smallest change and in my mind I question it. "Why did he just do that...he's never done that before?". But I question it because of my insecurities about being cheated on. Most of the time, the guy is just being adventurous and trying something new.....and it most certainly doesn't always mean something "weird" is going on. Sounds like he's just found something he really likes and wants to do it again and again. I'm sort of like that after finding my perfect position to have a killer orgasm. haha. Sometimes I feel like an addict craving drugs. lol Perhaps next time he tries to do this, just take control and say "lets switch things up a bit". Its important for you to be satisfied too. Don't be afraid to take control, let him have his "new position" sometimes, but other times.....do it the way you like to do it.

02-01-2009, 02:51 PM	#3
Tuesday VIP Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: UK Posts: 44	You say that if you mention it you would 'kinda hurt him' but isn't he kinda hurting you by making you feel like you're the human blow up doll.... I think you're within your rights to point out that this position doesn't do much for you. Would you make him do something he really wasn't all that into?

02-03-2009, 11:21 PM	#4
robbin VIP Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: running springs CA Posts: 51	i probably would. but i know he would enjoy knowing i liked it. like it did in this position at first. i guess it really just fels impersonal. i know for sure he is not cheating. he adores me. and we communicate so much and so well that i always know where he is.

02-04-2009, 02:37 AM	#5
Tuesday VIP Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: UK Posts: 44	I think if you're content to go along with this postition it's fine, in the course of a loving relationship where there is give as well as take. Make sure that it's balanced by having your needs met too, because if you give more than you recieve, you'll only end up feeling resentful.

02-07-2009, 06:17 AM	#6
rcoreyus March 2008 "Poster of the Month" Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 1,738	Its good to experiment with new positions. Maybe he heard about it at a site like this one you are reading now. If you don't like it, tell him. Otherwise I think variety is a fine thing. Since it is new, he may want to do it for the novelty for a while, but will probably get bored of the same thing after a while.

02-07-2009, 02:00 PM	#7
nightqueen Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 195	It seems like he's kind of using you. Are you enjoying this? He doesn't have the right to just turn you over and get off without caring what you think and if you even like it. If you can't express your feelings to him then I don't think that's a good thing in a relationship. Good luck.