Am I a prude? - Page 2

**PaneraBread** · 02-11-2009, 10:18 PM

Okay, I will raise my hand and say I did an M-F-F threesome for ME...I wanted to have fun with the girl, but it wasn't as fun as I thought. It just felt awkard...there was no build-up of emotional intimacy or what..so maybe that was it. It can be hard for 3 pepple to be simultaneously attracted to each other? Yeah, three-somes feel great when I'm masturbating, but maybe they're not for me in reality.

**Hopeless Dork** · 02-12-2009, 12:42 AM

Kms, that actually isn't a bubble burst, that is something that gives me a little hope that maybe not all men are selfish in that area. Is your boyfriend bi? Someone on another thread said MMF threesomes dont really exsist unless a guy is 'bi' because if its just 2 men having sex with one woman its technically just a gang bang as they are not involved with each other making it a technical threesome. I don't agree with that, I think thats just another way for men to make it more dirty sounding for a woman to want that but was curious.

Also want to add that I have no desire for MMF threesome, I am in to the person I am with and not interested in having sex eslewhere. I was just commenting on the fact that most men I've heard talk about this always say 2 girls one guy is hot and the reverse is something they wouldnt want to do. Which I find kind of selfish. But hey if there is men out there (of course there is, I know there is.. I was just making a point that by and large FFM threesomes seem to be more socially acceptable) that are willing to let the threesome be what their s.o wants and not just what they want, thats good news, not bad.

**SinisterUrge** · 02-12-2009, 04:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Hopeless Dork

.....I don't agree with that, I think thats just another way for men to make it more dirty sounding for a woman to want that but was curious.

I also said that a MFF 3way could be a gang-bang if neither of the women had sex with each other. If the party isn't going all three ways then it isn't a true threeway.

**Rebecca Deos** · 02-13-2009, 12:48 AM

Skipper, they are out there, you are simply not looking in the right places. I'm not comfortable elaborating, just think outside the box a bit, and you will go "Ahh!"

Dork, there are many women that enter into this type of situation with ease, and it's quite often the husband of BF that has issues to dal with, as they freak out from seeing how comfortable their partners are. No woman should enter into a situation like this to appease a partner, but women are just as capable of exploration as men.

**Hopeless Dork** · 02-13-2009, 12:54 AM

I agree and think that women ARE capable of exploration, I've stated on this board a bunch how I actually am starting to believe women are by and large more sexual beings than men , all the many my husband/bf wont put out posts. I just think that when it comes to threesomes FFM, I've personally experienced one, it wasn't great, we did it totally just to please the guy. I know friends that will kiss other girls they have no interest in just to excite boys, and women that will engage in threesomes when they arent into it because they feel they should do whatever it takes to please the SO. My whole point was just that most of the men I've talked to on the issue seem to be much more selfish than that when it comes to 3somes, they want it their way or the highway. I don't know if its a homophobic thing or what.. but it usually seems when they think 3some they think ffm right off the bat.

On a strictly my opinion only basis , I think that a woman is much more capable of pleasing 2 men then a man is pleasing 2 women. Men with their need for recovery time, not to mention if they get nervous and have trouble getting up or come too soon,etc. But yet and still there are so many that want this fantasy. I think fantasies are fine, consenting couples acting them out is fabulous. I just find the FFM threesome requests of men to their totally hetero female so, are selfish in that if they were 100 percent hetero they probably wouldnt agree to make out with a guy just to please their spouse. Not many women would want this (i wouldn't) I guess I just think I see that women bend more than men, much more.

**Rebecca Deos** · 02-13-2009, 01:02 AM

Dork, sorry, the bottom half of my last post didn't appear, but it was pretty much what you said above.The FFM is definately the ultimate male fantasy, and even in that case,they would probably become upset when they found that their participation wasn't actually required LOL

**Hopeless Dork** · 02-13-2009, 01:17 AM

lol yes exactly! I mean of course their are exceptions, but I have a friend who's husband does not give her as much sex as she wants, its of poor quality etc and he wants a FFM threesome, its like wtf? Learn to please one woman first !!

FlgirlinGa · 02-13-2009, 12:44 PM

Well, there is just no way that I could do it. And I do think she does it to keep him happy. They have been on and off for a long time.

Dreffensfia · 02-19-2009, 11:10 PM

I don't think you're a prude.

It's purely trust and choice.
The idea of a three some to me (another girl and my man) is a turn on. You have to discuss it deeply with your man, and possibly the other woman, to make sure you know the boundaries. My boyfriend and I have thought on and on about having a three some with another woman. I told him everything is fair game but he can't kiss her, or have a lot of direct eye contact with her. Kissing and eye contact is extremely intimate, and sex can be just sex if you know what you're doing. There needs to be strict guidelines, and a lot of it is purely trust. Do you trust your significant other not to go run off with the other woman when you're not around? Does he trust you enough to know that it's just a fantasy and she's just your little wh*re for the evening?

**Hopeless Dork** · 02-20-2009, 12:02 AM

Sometimes I think being the third party to a 3some would be the best because you get all the attention of both other parties and you get to leave that night and deal with none of the jealousy etc that may or may be.

But no offense to any ones rules that they put in a threesome (its their party!) but sometimes I think I'd feel like I had cooties being the 3rd member like.. Okay hes not allowed to touch you here or there and she can kiss you but dont look him in the eye etc.. while I understand it, I still think it could make the 3rd party feel a bit alien. I know I would.

02-12-2009, 12:42 AM	#12
Hopeless Dork Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: United States Posts: 1,236	Kms, that actually isn't a bubble burst, that is something that gives me a little hope that maybe not all men are selfish in that area. Is your boyfriend bi? Someone on another thread said MMF threesomes dont really exsist unless a guy is 'bi' because if its just 2 men having sex with one woman its technically just a gang bang as they are not involved with each other making it a technical threesome. I don't agree with that, I think thats just another way for men to make it more dirty sounding for a woman to want that but was curious. Also want to add that I have no desire for MMF threesome, I am in to the person I am with and not interested in having sex eslewhere. I was just commenting on the fact that most men I've heard talk about this always say 2 girls one guy is hot and the reverse is something they wouldnt want to do. Which I find kind of selfish. But hey if there is men out there (of course there is, I know there is.. I was just making a point that by and large FFM threesomes seem to be more socially acceptable) that are willing to let the threesome be what their s.o wants and not just what they want, thats good news, not bad. Last edited by CHANDLERS WISH; 02-13-2009 at 02:36 AM. Reason: merge posts

02-13-2009, 12:54 AM	#15
Hopeless Dork Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: United States Posts: 1,236	I agree and think that women ARE capable of exploration, I've stated on this board a bunch how I actually am starting to believe women are by and large more sexual beings than men , all the many my husband/bf wont put out posts. I just think that when it comes to threesomes FFM, I've personally experienced one, it wasn't great, we did it totally just to please the guy. I know friends that will kiss other girls they have no interest in just to excite boys, and women that will engage in threesomes when they arent into it because they feel they should do whatever it takes to please the SO. My whole point was just that most of the men I've talked to on the issue seem to be much more selfish than that when it comes to 3somes, they want it their way or the highway. I don't know if its a homophobic thing or what.. but it usually seems when they think 3some they think ffm right off the bat. On a strictly my opinion only basis , I think that a woman is much more capable of pleasing 2 men then a man is pleasing 2 women. Men with their need for recovery time, not to mention if they get nervous and have trouble getting up or come too soon,etc. But yet and still there are so many that want this fantasy. I think fantasies are fine, consenting couples acting them out is fabulous. I just find the FFM threesome requests of men to their totally hetero female so, are selfish in that if they were 100 percent hetero they probably wouldnt agree to make out with a guy just to please their spouse. Not many women would want this (i wouldn't) I guess I just think I see that women bend more than men, much more. Last edited by CHANDLERS WISH; 02-13-2009 at 02:38 AM.

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02-11-2009, 10:18 PM	#11
PaneraBread VIP Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 40	Okay, I will raise my hand and say I did an M-F-F threesome for ME...I wanted to have fun with the girl, but it wasn't as fun as I thought. It just felt awkard...there was no build-up of emotional intimacy or what..so maybe that was it. It can be hard for 3 pepple to be simultaneously attracted to each other? Yeah, three-somes feel great when I'm masturbating, but maybe they're not for me in reality.

02-13-2009, 12:48 AM	#14
Rebecca Deos VIP Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Tampa Posts: 36	Skipper, they are out there, you are simply not looking in the right places. I'm not comfortable elaborating, just think outside the box a bit, and you will go "Ahh!" Dork, there are many women that enter into this type of situation with ease, and it's quite often the husband of BF that has issues to dal with, as they freak out from seeing how comfortable their partners are. No woman should enter into a situation like this to appease a partner, but women are just as capable of exploration as men.

02-13-2009, 01:02 AM	#16
Rebecca Deos VIP Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Tampa Posts: 36	Dork, sorry, the bottom half of my last post didn't appear, but it was pretty much what you said above.The FFM is definately the ultimate male fantasy, and even in that case,they would probably become upset when they found that their participation wasn't actually required LOL

02-13-2009, 01:17 AM	#17
Hopeless Dork Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: United States Posts: 1,236	lol yes exactly! I mean of course their are exceptions, but I have a friend who's husband does not give her as much sex as she wants, its of poor quality etc and he wants a FFM threesome, its like wtf? Learn to please one woman first !!

02-13-2009, 12:44 PM	#18
FlgirlinGa Junior Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 25	Well, there is just no way that I could do it. And I do think she does it to keep him happy. They have been on and off for a long time.

02-19-2009, 11:10 PM	#19
Dreffensfia Junior Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Wisconsin Posts: 5	I don't think you're a prude. It's purely trust and choice. The idea of a three some to me (another girl and my man) is a turn on. You have to discuss it deeply with your man, and possibly the other woman, to make sure you know the boundaries. My boyfriend and I have thought on and on about having a three some with another woman. I told him everything is fair game but he can't kiss her, or have a lot of direct eye contact with her. Kissing and eye contact is extremely intimate, and sex can be just sex if you know what you're doing. There needs to be strict guidelines, and a lot of it is purely trust. Do you trust your significant other not to go run off with the other woman when you're not around? Does he trust you enough to know that it's just a fantasy and she's just your little wh*re for the evening?

02-20-2009, 12:02 AM	#20
Hopeless Dork Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: United States Posts: 1,236	Sometimes I think being the third party to a 3some would be the best because you get all the attention of both other parties and you get to leave that night and deal with none of the jealousy etc that may or may be. But no offense to any ones rules that they put in a threesome (its their party!) but sometimes I think I'd feel like I had cooties being the 3rd member like.. Okay hes not allowed to touch you here or there and she can kiss you but dont look him in the eye etc.. while I understand it, I still think it could make the 3rd party feel a bit alien. I know I would.